Will moving be too much for Dad?
My question to you is now that the staff has stepped up to the plate, why would you want to move your Dad? Not knowing more than what you have told me, I would strongly suggest you not move him. Thank you, Donna Q. Robbins
IF the care has improved to the level that you require, I too, would suggest that you do not move him. My answer is based on my experience with my father. Towards the end, when he no longer knew who I was, just said I was "that nice blond lady who comes to see me" and thought my Mom was his mother, we took him out to the park. He was absolutely terrified. He would not let go of our hands, and was scared to death. We realized then, that even tho he no longer knew who or where he was, the home was at least familiar. I would be concerned that your father might feel "lost", as mine did, if he was moved. Of course, if he continues to not get the care that you desire/feel he needs, then you must weigh that against his possible fear. Physically, he can probably withstand the move (might need to consider moving by ambulance if he is in that poor of health.) Only you can make that decision as we do not know your father as you do. One suggestion is that you might discuss the possibility of a move with the hospice worker and get her/his opinion. They have worked with many in your father's situation and may be able to either help facilitate change in the care he is receiving at his current home, or help you with making a change in homes. But they will be better able to give you a qualified opinion on how he would fare either way. Best to you and your family.
