What will you do when someone with Alzheimer's can't live independently?

old bill

8 months ago

My wife will recieve all the care I can give as long as I am physically able wether she is home or in a nursing facility.When I can no longed give her care I will be in a veterans home.Then the family will have to step in to replace me.The Marine Corps motto is my guideline SEMPER FI,always faithful.

beejay

almost 2 years ago

My mother-in-law passed away in June, 2009. She had alzheimers and lived in an assisted living in Florida (we are in Michigan). After my father-in-law passed away a year earlier, we moved her to Michigan where she lived with us. Some days she knew us, some days she didn't. My mother is now in the early stages of the disease. When she is unable to live by herself, she too, will come live with us. My suggestion to anyone considering this, is you must be willing and able to put your life on hold. There is no time line, no age limit or restraint. You need to have a strong support system and plan for outlets. This must be the most difficult decision any family member can make. I used to remind myself that for a minimum of 18 years, these parents gave up their lives for the children they raised. I continuously told myself that 18 years was the minimum I would give back. On the flip side, if you are unable to move a parent in with you or move in with your parent, get them the best care you can, but do not feel guilty. Not all families are able to do the same as another family. The most important thing is your loved one's well being and that may not always be with another family member.

JASNELL

almost 2 years ago

My father had Alzheimers for 10 yrs. My son and I moved in with them to help my mother because her help wasn't very good either. My best advice to anyone who has a loved one with this disease is: try to be patient even though sometimes it seems impossible to do so. Don't disagree with your love one over trivial things such as the sun is shining and they think it is rainy - so what. Don't ever expect them to understand how to do even the smallest tasks such as taking a bath or getting dressed. They might know how to do these things one day and not the next. As the days progresses your love one will not remember as much as in the morning and their mood will often change. Just try to be patient and have a life line (someone who you can call and talk with ) yelling or getting upset only makes things worse for not only you, but also for your love one. It is a very sad disease. If your love one goes into a nursing home be sure to check on them regularly, because not everyone working with these patients understands the disease or doesn't have the patience to handle the situations. During the time my father had the disease I found out that many times i grew to know my father in ways i never knew him before. He was a retired military man, very strict etc. and his personality changed, so much he was so funny and I enjoyed being with him. JASNELL

KLMurray

about 2 years ago

It is always easy to say what you would to IF it happens. BUT when it really happens there are alot of other factors to consider, i.e., cost, availabile, etc.