catdagger

Member since May 01, 2009
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Hi, My name is Lorraine and I care for my 92-year-old mother. She has a mobility disability from a radiation burn she sustained prior to hip replacement surgery 7 years ago. This past February my Mom, lost her 93 year old sister, her last sibling and her health went streaming lining down. She lost her balance and fell into a trellis between 2 rooms; she hurt her arm and I had to get help from her doctor's wife to get her to go to see her doctor. She is extremely stubborn, willful and very controlling. I am 57 years old and live with her. Due to her controlling and stubborn nature, I am getting increasingly depressed living there and hope to move out within a year. I feel badly about this, but I cannot let my health suffer due to her ways. She is constantly calling me to do something for her. I feel like I have no time to get my own things done. I have one sister, who doesn't give a hoot about my Mother or me. She calls periodically to say "Hi Mom, how are you, but then she either cuts my mother off or begins to tell her all the problems she's dealing with, so my Mother never wants to call her. I keep telling my Mom, I'm not your only daughter, call Chris, but she says "Oh she's so busy." - like I'm not busy. I work full time and so does my sister, but my sister is in her own business and can make her own hours for working. I'm so scared when it will come to when my mohter passes on, how I will be able to break up her house, handle all the bills and change the house insurance and everything else that will need to be done with changes and notifying like Social Security, etc., find a new place to live (if I'm not already moved) and continue to work full time. Any suggestions will be appreciated.

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