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• Article - How to Avoid Strained Sibling Relationships When a Parent Has Alzheimer's

  The best ways to maintain family unity when caring for a parent with Alzheimer's disease.

Blog Posts

• Blog Post - I can't get over my resentment at my sister and brother for not being there when my mother was dying of cancer.

  How to deal with resentment toward siblings who don't help, leaving all the parental care giving to you.

• Blog Post - I feel guilty about it, but I can barely stand the sight of my mother, who wants to live with me. What do I owe her?

  My mother is only 61 years old, but she may as well be 90...

• Blog Post - Are You a "Designated Daughter"?

  A new book coins a new term for grown daughters who look after their parents: designated daughter.

• Blog Post - Hospice: Comfort for Patient and Caregivers Alike

  One family's experience with hospice during a mother's last weeks of life.

• Blog Post - Alcohol Abuse Among Seniors -- the Last Taboo Subject

  Alcohol abuse among seniors still tends to be secret, but new data show it's more common than most people suspect. A guide to how to talk about it.

• Blog Post - My brother won't share financial information about our dad's assets, and it's tearing the family apart.

  My brother has durable power of attorney for my dad...

• Blog Post - Should Family Members Who Provide Alzheimer's Care Be Paid?

  Paying family caregivers is controversial and has pitfalls to beware of if you go this route.

• Blog Post - Fighting for Breath: A Mother's Last Weeks of Life

  Laura Juel had to advocate for her mother during her final days to help her get pain relief.

• Blog Post - My mother has asked not to be resuscitated if she has a medical crisis, but my siblings disagree on what constitutes a medical crisis.

  Before she showed signs of dementia, my mother decided...

• Blog Post - How can I stop my brother from taking power of attorney for my mother away from me?

  I'm having problems with my brother and his family...

Questions & Answers

• Question - How do I get my siblings to realize that it is important to be with our parents during the holidays?

  My siblings never visit my parents during the holidays. What can I do?

• Question - Am I entitled to property from my brother's estate if both of my parents are alive?

  Whether a sibling is entitled to another sibling's property at death may depend on whether or not there was a will in the picture.

• Question - Is there any legal action we can take against our sister's conservator?

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• Question - Is my disabled sister eligible for Medicare parts A&B?

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• Question - How do I get my brother and sister to share more of the burden of caring for our mother, who has ovarian cancer?

  Brothers and sisters may disagree on how to share the burden of caring for a parent. Read expert tips on delegating work and avoiding resentment.

• Question - How can my brother and I convince my aging parents to move closer to us?

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• Question - Is there any way that a sibling can revoke durable power of attorney from another?

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• Question - If all the siblings agree on splitting their parent's assets equally, do we still have to go through probate?

  When going through probate, you may get lots of good help from an unexpected source: the probate court itself.

• Question - My brother and I are adults, but when it comes to taking care of my mother, we fall right back into the roles we had as children.

  ideas for how to handle sibling rivalries and misunderstandings between sibling caregivers

• Question - How do I keep my spirits high when caregiving in a challenging situation?

  Caring for mother is taking over my life. Is there anyway to make things easier?

• Question - How do I help my sister cope with chemo?

  This question has been answered by two Community Members

• Question - What do I do when my mother, who has ovarian cancer, expresses resentment about my siblings not coming to visit her enough?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert

• Question - How do we decide between a reverse mortgage for my father or a personal loan from me?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert

• Question - How do we convince our parents that they need to move so we can care for them?

  This question has been answered by a Community Member

• Question - Does a sibling have any say in her mother's burial planning if she does not have power of attorney?

  A power of attorney is a dead letter once the principal dies. But there are ways to protect wishes for final arrangements such as burial plans.

• Question - How do I compensate a sibling who is the primary caregiver for our parent?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert

• Question - My mother doesn't want to know how long she has to live, so how do I say the things I need to say before it's too late?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert and a Community Member

• Question - Siblings disagree over selling parent's house

  My sibling has power of attorney and wants to sell my parent's house. I don't want to sell the house because my parent is still competent. What to do?

• Question - How much income is too much for a senior to receive in...

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• Question - What can I do about the fact that my sibling is in denial about Alzheimer's?

  This question has been answered by a Community Member

• Question - What is a sibling's role in a conservatorship?

  Many siblings can offer one another a special type of companionship and support, but a conservatorship deals with other duties.

• Question - What are the first steps in getting my mother's home deeded to my siblings and me?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert

• Question - Can my parent give durable power of attorney for healthcare to one child, and durable power of attorney for finance to another?

  Can my parents give one child durable power of attorney for healthcare and one durable power of attorney for finances? Power of attorney can be split.

• Question - How do I get my mother to update her trust and power of attorney?

  To help overcome your mom's resistance about updating her estate planning documents, you may need to heed why she feels a roadblock.

• Question - My mom is 65 and did a reverse morgage. Are her kids responsible in any way?

  This question has been answered by a Community Member

• Question - What's the difference between a guardianship and a conservatorship?

  What's the difference between a guardianship and a conservatorship? I want to know because my elderly parent refuses to sign a power of attorney.

• Question - How do I resolve a family conflict so I can visit my mother?

  My sister lives with my mother, and is making it hard to visit Mom and make sure she is okay.

• Question - What can I do to get my money from a trust fund?

  You may have to take legal action to get a stubborn trustee to live up to his or her duties.

• Question - My father-in-law is depressed and has no daily activities to occupy him.

  This question has been answered by three Community Members

• Question - What's the best way to handle criticism about the Alzheimer's care I'm giving my mom?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert and a Community Member

• Question - How do we preserve my deceased father's estate when my mother remarries?

  To find out whether you are slated to get family property when your mother remarries, you have to look at the underlying estate plan.

• Question - My father has colon cancer. What's the best way to deal with his angry outbursts?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert

• Question - Can a parent revise or revoke a durable power of attorney for healthcare or finances?

  Can my parent revise or revoke his durable power of attorney for healthcare? He can revise his durable power of attorney if he's of sound mind.

• Question - What are the risks with reverse mortgages?

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• Question - How can I get my brother to help out more in caring for our mother?

  Ideas for how to handle sibling rivalries and misunderstandings between sibling caregivers.

• Question - From what money are final expenses paid first?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert

• Question - How do we handle paying taxes on my deceased mother's estate?

  This question has been answered by a Caring.com Expert