Both my father & step mother have been diagnosed wit Alzheimers in the last couple of years.  My father used to do all the cooking but does very little now.  We have a friend that visits them weekdays from bout 9 am to 3 pm, we have lunches delivered and then I go there after work o make sure they get dinner & thier meds.  On weekends I go there in the morning to make sure Dad gets up & then again at dinner for supper & meds. 

My father is an insulin dependant diabetic (twice daily injections) but refuses to be on a regular schedule.  He likes to stay up until 4 am & then doesn't want to get out of bed until 2 or 3 in the afternoon which doesn't work with his insulin.  I have discusssed with all of his doctors & they tell him he has to be on a schedue, he agrees & then goes home & does the same old thing.  I get frustrated but I don't know if he just does this because he wants to or if it migh be an Alzheimers thing . . . ?  We've discussed them moving into assisted living or something like that but he gets angry & says he's not leaving his home.  I don't blme them for wanting to stay in their home but I'm torn - I don't know how much longer I can keep this up, I think they may benefit (due to Alzheimers) from a living situation where they would have more contact with others but I don't want them to go to someplace where they're not happy & just waiting to die.  If anybody has any suggestions I would welcome them.