'Who do I trust?' posted by nohope @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

nohope — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 01:40:11 -0000

By all means, you should contact the attorney who holds the original will. Upon a person's death, a will legally becomes public knowledge. You have every right to see what the will contains. If you are named as a beneficary and the executor has not complied with the stated requests, then the executor can be held liable. Your mother has no legal say as to wether or not you can view the will.

'Who do I trust?' posted by LosingMySelf @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

LosingMySelf — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:35:39 -0000

This is a tough situation. I agree that you should talk to a lawyer. There is a service called pre-paid legal which isn't always the best (good for asking somewhat common questions) but it's cheap and gives you the option to consult with a lawyer at no cost (other than a reasonable, less than $20 a month that can be cancelled at any time). Be careful. I don't know why but people, even loved ones will try to take advantage of you in vulnerable situations such as these. When my mom died I didn't have to deal with any family really as I was an only child and she wasn't married so everything went to me but people definitey came out of the woodwork. Her brother asked many times for money. My dad whose been out of the picture since I was four asked for her car. Her coworkers (she was a real estate agent) came to her memorial trying to "help" me sell her home. It was a nightmare. Don't let people fool you!

I don't know for sure, but it doesn't seem like they can keep you from seeing his will. I would think you'd have rights. I hate to say this, but sometimes even the "threat" (for lack of a better term) of getting a lawyer will stop people from doing these kinds of things. You might at least mention if they don't let you see the will, you'll get a lawyer and see if that helps. Sometimes people don't want to deal with that sort of thing. I don't know you're family but it seems to me it might be a control thing. He was left in charge and doesn't want you interfering but my guess is it may also be a little more complicated than that.

Gook Luck!

'Who do I trust?' posted by Missy @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

Missy — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:58:09 -0000

While I'm definitely no expert, I would recommend you talk to a lawyer about this. If you are named, it's because your father wanted you to have what he's leaving you. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you suspect your family isn't being truthful. What a double blow. :-(

'Who do I trust?' posted by Anonymous @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

Anonymous — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:04:13 -0000

Since my Dad's death almost a year ago, the only family is my older brother and Mother. The problem I have tried not to deal with is my Dad's will which my brother is the executor of. Both my brother and Mother are very close. My brother and I do not talk at all. I have on more then one occasion been lied to by both and knowing I am Named also in the will but told I am not allowed to look at it. Even though my Mother is still alive, I wonder if I still have a right to look at this or do I wait. The going back and forth is because of the nature of this ugly thing And I have tried to put this all to rest...And yet the lying and no communication has me more suspicious than ever. I'm wondering if I should talk with the lawyer who has the original will?

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