My mother is constantly stealing. She goesinto homes that are brand new and are show cases, then she steals little things, like dishes, glass bottles with oil, all sorts of table ware, etc. I cannot get her to stop.
THEN SHE BLAMES EVERYONE ELSE FOR HER PROBLEM.
Recently, she stopped talking to her best friend, because she stole something important and put her friend in a very bad situation. The friend, followed all legal rules and when the authorities caught up with my mom, she became so angry, that she yelled and screamed at everyone! Then she took it out on her friend, who had nothing to do with it at all!
Its out of control. We love her friend and her family. I am getting married and if my mom has her way, they won't be invited.
I need help to straighten this mess out. My mom has mental issues. Plus she uses this site to give out advise. She is the wrong person to give out advise.
please help!
It sounds like your mom has a compulsion issue. Maybe you could talk to a trusted medical professional about getting her help.
I don't know how old your Mom is but if she is acting like a rebelous teenager, then I would simply suggest telling her " Mom, I love you, your very important to me, but if you want a relationship with me and my extended family without causing me any undue stress, then I need a promise from you that you will stop & or get help with this stealing problem". Regardless of your Mother's reaction you need to be firm in one very specific matter regarding this issue, that is that HER STEALING IS CAUSING A DISTURBANCE IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU WILL NOT INDULGE HER OR TOLERATE IT ANYMORE" . Kinda tough love..I don't know if this will help you or not but you sound like an intelligant person that certainley has true concern for a MOther that you love and care about, You might be surprised at her reaction once she accepts the fact that YOU WILL NO LONGER CONDONE THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR. Unfortunaltley we live in a society that sometimes makes us Parent the Parent. Good luck! And stick to your guns! Believe me You will feel alot better and so will she once she realizes that THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE ANY LONGER!!
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