'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by LadyTrucker @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

LadyTrucker — Thu, 11 Aug 2011 12:35:48 -0000

I understand you may be hurt but you took care of your mom out of love for your mom. What others did or did not do does not matter. If you did not pay for her funeral expenses, I am sure your dad and other siblings would have came up with a soloution. Again I say YOU DID THIS FOR YOUR MOM.. GET OVER IT! What are you looking for them to do.Why still talk about what you did if it was not out of love or was if showboating... It appears that you may be finacially well off , your family may be the stronger family I am sure it is more to the story.. did you leave you dads home against his wishes, he may be getting payback on you now...You can't control how you dad split is assets/home I am sure there is more to the story why you dad is doing what he is doing. My grandparents split everything with his kids and grand kids equally.. but with the grandkids it was decided IF we spent legitimate time with them, the one never came for visits, never did anything for him,Got nothing... I do have sympathy for you, you are hurt but this is your dad that is doing this, if your siblings live rent free, why do you care? I know, they should be independent. But if your dad do not have and issue with it why do you care, I am sure you spoke against the siblings being in his home, and this is the very reason he decided to split his assets with them and not you. You can't control what others do. If a need come about for your dad let the siblings in the house with. Him take care of it. When I do something for my family I do it because I am blessed to do it, When you do things for others, those blessings come back in your life, I know it does for me. I see a need and take care of it and look for nothing in return. I bet you criticized everything your dad do and this is why he did, what he did for the siblings you want us to think arelazy.. Again more to the story I am sure.

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by felic1 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

felic1 — Tue, 02 Aug 2011 05:00:01 -0000

you are so hurt. maybe you should stay away some. i believe you could use a counselor, but you still have us. i hope you get better soon. i thank god for this forum, outlet, and information

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by felic1 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

felic1 — Tue, 02 Aug 2011 04:56:44 -0000

this sounds really great. i heard a phrase that i can show you better than i can tell you. my parents made my brother and sister co executors. now that my parents are sick, they are not available.

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by james 605 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

james 605 — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 03:29:22 -0000

It feels like my mom is treating me with no respect. All she does is hang out with my sister and step dad all the time.

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by cmacp @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

cmacp — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 01:21:51 -0000

Ll1961; At last someone brought up the topic of inheritances. My husband has 3 siblings - all married, healthy and well employed. Three yrs ago, he had a traumatic brain injury and is permanently disabled. Except for the 10 mos he was hospitalized, I have cared for him at home alone. Our income has plumetted. While we waited the 2 yrs and 5 mos for Medicare, we used up our savings. Now that he is eligible for Medicare, we find that full coverage for both of us would take almost 1/2 our income. In other words, we could use some help. Last month I learned that his elderly mother has quit deeded her two homes to her other children. One married sister has already moved her family in to her free home and is selling her old house. The other sister just inherited her father in law's home. Counting her 1/2 share in the mother's house, she and her husband presently own 2 1/2 houses. The 2 deeded homes are valued over $1 million. Shortly after my husband's injury, they started influencing the mother to make them co-signatures on her accounts and to write a will. Last week my mother in law told me that my husband is excluded from her will. She said, she has given him a lot over the yrs. Even if this were true, his injury has changed everything.I can't wrap my mind around a mother who would leave her grown disabled child uncared for. I feel like the siblings moved in like hyenas, taking advantage of my husband's inability to defend himself, - and conspiring to confuse an elderly lady. I have told them about Special Needs Trusts. I am the 2nd wife, and I have not been included in their discussions, so I am in an awkward position. I worry about what will happen to my husband if I get ill or die. The siblings have promised to care for their brother, but they're not helping now, so I don't believe they will change once they have the entire estate.Actually, with the transfer of the homes, and the co-signatories on the accounts, there will be very little that passes through the Estate. As one family member said, 'those who had the most got the most, and the one with the least (and the greatest need), got the least. Anybody else out there have experience with relatives acting strange when there is an inheritance and a severe illness? Love to hear other stories.

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by ycbski2 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

ycbski2 — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 15:27:36 -0000

There is a lot of venom in your post. Maybe justly deserved, who can say not walking in your shoes. But if it were me and I felt this way, I would just divorce myself from the family and the poison they filled me with.

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by Vertigon @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

Vertigon — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 10:02:29 -0000

My sly mother and father keep giving my sisters thousands of dollars and when I ask them how that can be fair they just come back with stupid excuses. The sad bit is I really am the most decent child they had, maybe there guilt drives their unfairness. My dad has basically been a scum since the day he was born and I remind him regularly, obviously he resents me for that and I know he'd gladly leave everything to them if he could. Over the years his influence has rubbed off on my mum and now my mum is just as sly and unfair. They have worked liked dogs all their lives and for years I always been sad about how miserable life made them, now I see there is some justice in the world. They don't deserve better and with a bit of luck they'll be bitter and angry till they die. Being born into this shyte family is the biggest regret of my life, so if you have decent parents be so gratefull, you've missed out on the grief I've had dumped on me for years. Even as a child I was ashamed of them, sometimes I wonder if I'd be alot happier if they just died, least I wouldn't have to always be sorting through the lies and trying to calculate the financial discrepency. My dad is now pissing himself, its funny and disgusting at the same time. He's a scum that is looking more and more like a scum everyday.

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by Anonymous @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

Anonymous — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 16:43:37 -0000

If they are living with your father rent free why are they not caring for him. Step out of the picture and feel no guilt for doing so. If they do not pick up the slack his anger will turn on them too. You must take care of yourself or you can take care of no one else.

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by LauraL @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

LauraL — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:17:18 -0000

Hi LL,

(((HUGS))) I'm so very sorry that you are going through so much pain and anguish over this. It does seem inherently unfair! Have you had a heart-to-heart with your father about this, about it's not that you're looking for recompense for caring for your mom, but just that you would like some acknowledgment that you're his child, too?

Please do let us know how you are doing - we're here to listen. :)

LauraL

'How to deal with anger over unfair split of assets' posted by LL1969 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

LL1969 — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 04:34:55 -0000

My father recently informed me that he was putting his home in my brother and sisters names only. There are seven living siblings. They both live with the man rent free. They will pay the taxes and monthly living exspenses only if my fathers social security checks won't stretch. I feel that they are taking advantage of my father by living in his home rent free. I am also angry that he would leave all his assets to only the two of them. I helped care for my mother who recently died of cancer for the last two years of her life. I paid for her funeral exspenses except for $800.00 that didn't come from either of them. I work full time, attend college online and have a family of my own. I did all of this while going to my parents home twice a day to give medications and help her with her daily bathing needs. I am angry at all of them and hurt beyond words. I would greatly apperciate any advice.

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