I live in California and have been paid by check for three years to live in and care for a dear lady with Alzheimers, Parkinsons, and MSA.  When I file my taxes, the family that pays me had requested that I file as self-employed and pay the IRS that way.  Of course, the IRS told me the first year that I did this, that I was NOT self employed, but if I tried to not file there might be "repercussions" where I live....Of course, I chose the easy route and paid my own taxes.  Anyway, now the family has chosen to move this lady to a skilled nursing facility as we are no longer able to meet her needs at home, and I am out of a home and the unemployment that I should be able to draw.  I urge your friend to step up and take the high road, and pay for her care the proper way.  Those friends or employees deserve that after all. 

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