Amanda, my heart goes out to you. Diabetes is an awful disease. It took my father at 56. He was tired of being sick.(he suffered over 10yrs) He lost his leg and then the kidneys started failing. Following his implant for dialysis he pulled it out and refused treatment. I pleaded with him to take his meds and treatments. He refused and choose to leave us. In the last weeks of his life, without dialysis, he lost his ability to think straight. The body goes all out of wack. He was in the hospital and abusive to all. We brought him home many times and tryed to care for him. We were incapable of handling the conditions that are the results. Sounds like you have a young family and they need you more than she. I'm not a big believer of nursing homes, but they do serve their purpose. These people are trained to care for the critically ill and unstable. She would get her meds, be fed and be under a doctors care. You make your visits and then go home to your family. You need to take care of yourself and not repeat what the women in you family have done before you. Make the change today. When they start attacking us, it is time to make our move. Courage to you, and I'm glad you found us. We need you and we are here to support you thru this very hard time.
Hello I’m new to this forum and I’m writing because I’m at the end of my rope. I grew up with a verbally abusive mother and grandmother. My grandmother died of complications due to her untreated type 2 diabetes and severe hypertension, which she refused to seek help for. My mother inherited the same diseases. When she was diagnosed with hypertension she took her medicine fairly well considering she herself was a nurse you would think she would have done a better job but she didn’t. She was then diagnosed with type 2 diabetes which she ignored completely. Several years later she began having gallbladder troubles, it was soon removed, and she still ignored her health problems. Two years later diabetic retinopathy, she was given laser surgery once and didn’t return until she lost her eyesight completely. She lost her job and was placed on disability; she refused her medicine this lead to a stroke. She ended up in a nursing home for rehabilitation (to walk again) she returned home got on the right track for a month or so then started verbally abusing me for sweets. She refuses to eat healthy. Hypertension affected her kidneys I begged and pleated with her to take her medicine she didn’t and this year we were told she needed dialysis. She refused t he dialysis opting to die quietly. She has since become confused she asks for dead family members, and forgets who I am. Last night she attacked me because I tried to wake her to get ready for bed. I have told doctors, nurses, who ever will listen she is not thinking right all I get for an answer is , “ they tend to forget” I can't take anymore . I have continual headaches and cry daily. I am an only child I have cooked, cleaned, played nurse, washed clothes, and paid bills for her. I remember last year thinking if she’d taken her meds while giving birth to my son. They keep saying she can live alone. No she can’t! I don’t know where to turn thanks for listening,
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