i,ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years, but have known him for 25 years. he found out in july that he had liver cancer and was taking chemo medicine.this morning we went to the doctors and found out the medicine isn,t working anymore, so the doctor took him off it and told him to let nature take it,s course. at first, he told him he had 1 year, now he told him the tumor,s are growing and that he only has up to 6 months.iam very upset about this. i don,t know how to deal with it. he is my heart and soul. iam scared and don,t know what to do or think. i,m not working and i,m not sure if i can take care of myself when he dies. he has been taking care of me for the last 6 1/2 years, till he found out he had cancer, now i take care of him as much as i can. what am i supose to do?
How about some different chemo or some trials something at least My husbands dr never gave up hope that some kind of chemo would help but it didn't at the end His was colon cancer and there are many chemo drugs to try with that kind of cancer I would ask the dr . I am sorry that this is happening Please take care
michelle
My prayers are with you Michelle, as I know how you feel right now. I just lost my husband to pancreatic cancer Feb. 4. He was taken from me two months after his dianosis. The doctors gave us four to six months. I made sure I told him daily just how much I loved him. I made sure that he knew how much he was loved and would be missed. There is a book called "Final Gifts". It was written by hospice nurses and I am thankful I read it as it helped me to understand what happening in his last hours here on earth.
His doctors told us to prepare for the worst and hope and pray for the best which we did right up to the end.
I am still trying to figure out how I am going to make it now that he is gone. Right now I am taking it minute by minute. One piece of advice I can give to you is now is the time to build yourself and your boyfriend a very big support group to help you through your rough times ahead. Have friends and family that will be there to help see you through your trying times ahead.
Another piece of advice that a doctor gave to me was to see him for the person he is and was, not his disease. He's still the wonderful man you love, he's not the disease.
Please feel free to keep in touch with me and know I am praying for you.
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