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I recently lost my mother and the pain is unbearable
I am so sorry, Anonymous. I understand your pain. It's a large hole that's left behind. My best advice is to let the feelings be your feelings. They're honest and true, but don't let them take over your life. Remember, but don't live in the past. Keep moving forward. Please feel free to start up any threads you may wish to to gather advice and suggestions and hugs.
I'm new to this group. I just returned from helping a friend's husband and his sister-in-law make final arrangements for her. She is in Hospice with last stages of leukemia. I have been thinking about making my own pre-arrangements and wonder how many others have done this. I already have a POA, a living will and a final will and testament which were written about 6 years ago when my mom passed. I have two cousins, one of who was named as my executor and the wills are filed with my attorney and my physician. Any advice you can offer as to what other arrangements besides the funeral home I should consider would be appreciated.
To all of you who are mourning my heartfelt condolences.
Hi Janq,
Welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. How kind of you to help out her family and her.
I think you're smart to be planning ahead. This page: http://www.caring.com/end-of-life will offer you much information on final arrangements, financial arrangements, and other valuable info for planning such as you are. Perhaps this will help you round out your already set plans.
Please hang around and offer your experiences to others, we'd love to have you!
Laura
Thank you. I wish there was more I could do or say to help make this period of their lives easier. This morning I brought Holy Communion to my friend. I know that her faith has been so helpful for her. Her husband is having a difficult time though he knows that his dear wife is looking forward to "going home" to our Lord.
Thank you, too, for the advice and web site. I will certainly look into it. I think I'll be going to the funeral director after the New Year to take care of my arrangements. I certainly don't want my cousins to have to make these decisions.
God bless all of you on this site. You are providing a wonderful service.
I can immagine the pain you must have felt and still feel over loosing your Mother.
I have an eighty-year old Mother with cervical cancer which has mestisized and I can tell you the dozens of times I have cried alone thinking when she's gone. I am an only child and she was a widow when I was eight years old till she re married when I was in my early thirtites but we were always very close and although I am thankful that I been blessed having my Mother still around is a great comfort but nevertheless It saddens me when the day the Lord will take her away. I understand this is part of life and we all have to walk on the same path one day. I pray that God gives me courage to accept what I cannot change and gives me strength to keep on going.
God Bless
Betty
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