I am the sole caregiver for my 79 year old mother. She had 3 strokes 14 years ago and was getting 24 hour paid caregivers until last August whern she came to live with my husband and myself. We had just retired and planned to be at the birth of our 2nd gradnchild who will be born in March in North Carolina, we live in Northwest Florida. Does anyone out there have any ideas on how I could possibly make the birth without breaking the bank? She has already spent some time in a rehab/nursing home for weak transfers after a brief hospital stay. She is very dependent on others, cannot transfer to or from wheelchair, toilet or bed without supervision and naturally cannot fix meals. The rehab/nursing home does offer respite care, will any insurance cover this? Please offer any suggestions, the baby is coming in March, and I desperately do not want to resent my mother if I can't work this out.
Hey there! Congrats in advance on the new grandbaby! How exciting for your family!
In my experience, some insurances cover respite care and others don't. You'll need to call your mom's to see if they have this type of benefit.
I know that probably wasn't the advice you were looking for, but I'm hopeful for you that it'll all work out.
Thanks , Missy. She has Medicare and another that I will call. I am so worn out sometimes it seems like it's only God and me...Sheryl
Dear Momwacko, I am a 58 yr old female who has been taking care of a almost 94 yr old female for 5 yrs. I must admit I was VERY impressed by Aarons response! However, the lady I care for is NOT related to me, she has no living family. But I love her dearly. I do not know what your or your mothers financial situation is but if you know someone you can trust REALLY trust who she is compatible with then I would think of hiring them for the period you are needing off! Personally, I hate agencys but that is just me! I also think the idea of having your Mom put in the hospital for 3 MIDNIGHTS then moved to a in house rehab is a GREAT idea. You may or may not be able to sit down and explain to your Mom what is going on. Remember when you leave her that they are experienced , and she WILL be ok. This will give you some pece of mind so you can actually ENJOY your trip with your new grandbaby!
I wish people could form some sort of "group" so lets say thre was 5 who are caregiviers and ofcourse it would depend on the level of care their loved one needs but maybe 1 could take in another for 1 week and then you could re-pay the favor!
I hope your mother realizes what a sacrafice you are making each and every day for her. God Bless you. A agency will cost you a arm and a leg you should be able to hire someone for say $10-12 hr a agency will charge you $17-22. And altho they are bonded----beware. If you ever want to e-mail plz feel free to do so--sometimes just talking helps! cccarter2005@att.net
I realize now that I am probley way to late! Sorry!
Aaron, you are awesome! Great advice! There needs to be more willing to share advice, adn knowledge! God Bless you! Carol
Yes but altho sometimes you feel you cannot go any further remember this: God will never give you more than you can carry and I am religious but not overly if that makes any sense!Somedays nothing makes sense!
I want everyone who has a family member IF they qualify for HOSPICE it is a WONDERFUL program at first I fought it but TY LOrd for bringing the program to me and most of all to Eve! You cnnot imangine what all they offer! But most of all they are caring!
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