'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by kjohnson @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

kjohnson — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:31:40 -0000

I am new here and just came across this thread of postings. Glad to hear that the application was approved!! and that you are soon on your way, getting out of your horrible living situation and doing big things for yourself :)

Keep it up and good luck on your move!

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 14:00:01 -0000

Atleast I have the License Application approval now. That was one major hurdle cleared :)

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:19:04 -0000

Ahh delays can happen. I can understand. Stay the course.Pulling yourself up ain't easy, but the alternative is far worse. You go girl!

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 00:58:55 -0000

My drop dead date did pass, but I had delays, more information required for my License Application Approval. So that took longer than I had hoped.

My bf's been taking stuff to his house for me, so I don't have to mess with expenses of a Climate Controlled storage unit. Atleast I know my stuff will be safe until I can get it to FL.

It's just getting a bit worse here. I'm so used to being accused of anything and everything that it does not even faze me anymore.

Oh well....soon :) And I am gone, Gone, GONE!!!!!

Chapter 1 done again today. :)

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 23:50:39 -0000

I've had my hands full with taking care of responsibilitiies here.

Tuesday I get to FINALLY start studying again, then go to Florida and take the test.

Believe me, I want out more than anything in the world.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 01:54:08 -0000

Dolphin.

Didn't your drop dead date pass? You're not still living there are you? This is likely affecting your material retention and obviously your exam results. Ruthellen

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 15:46:49 -0000

Just bang head against brick wall.

Tuesday, I can finally resume studying.

Argh.

I hate caregiving. And I am tired of people trying to tear me in every direction. And my mom pretending she knows what I am dealing with.

Tired of an old woman who won't use her new walker, or the new portable phone.

Mom is making it worse. She was over for a few days, and even poured her coffee and OJ for her, which I can already see is going to make her more demanding in the long run.....

I can finally resume studying on Tuesday, thank God.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:04:21 -0000

Update: License approved :)

Now to study again, and take the test.

But there is a light at the end of the tunnel finally :)

And yeah...Granny gets meaner each day. Now I'm stealing money from her, according to her. Good Lord.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:59:11 -0000

Thanks.

I had to send more info in for the Real Estate license. 1 more week...theh the test.

No matter what, I am getting out.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:53:09 -0000

hey Dolphin I thought you were gone already...... any way sorry to hear about your frenemy's lousy behavior. It sucks to leave the good B/F's behind. But you're still right to make a life for you. You soooo have it going on!

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:41:33 -0000

Oh boy, the closer I come to moving, the worse it gets.

Granny....Good Lord. Aside from me being too stupid to pick up a prescription, I'm also too stupid to program the answering machine part of the new phone. She won't even let me read the instructions. Oh yeah, and now too stupid to pick up three bottles of laundry detergent. Only mom or a man can do those things. (rolling eyes).

Don't ask me what I've done today....she has been a real b**** all morning.

On the good side: After 6 mouse-free days, the traps are gone. And having them in a certain area made it so I have a few boxes packed at my b/f's. Got one more to go.

I love my b/f and know my moving will hurt him, but I did not need the added stress of a mutual friend berating me for it. I know if I live even within 2 hours of here I will still be the Family Slave. And it's not like he did not know it. So he's been pretty grumpy lately.

so....nothing like adding another guilt trip into the mix.....

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 01:26:31 -0000

And just when you think you may have a few days to relax.....HA.

Came home from upnorth. To find a mouse in my room. Of course, that created drama. Got a second one.

Since they were in a small vicinity, I suggest (and mom agreed)....maybe the hole where the cable comes in? Granny insists no. 5 guys on Facebook say I am likely right. B/F comes over...sure enough....we have a large gap on the skirting there....and a big hole where the cable comes in. Patched that up and we've gone 1 mouse free night.

I hate that Granny could not believe me on that.

Next up: Granny needs a prescription for a new walker. Her Doctor calls, leaves message, pres is ready, pick it up at the front desk.

I tell Granny it is ready, will pick up after I do the gym. It's right across the street. Nope...Granny thinks I have no idea where to pick up a piece of paper at. That was my docs office til I switched docs. It's not a big town, nor a big office.

Now my mom is mad, because I said...hey since Granny doesn't trust me, you go pick it up (she is the one who ordered it).

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 22:56:25 -0000

The latest update:

My license application goes before the board on 10/21.

So hopefully....mid-November and I'm gone, gone, gone.

She's still in the "I don't want you to leave" mode. Oh well. It's still weekly arguments over anything and everything.

It's been the usual Soap Opera here. The usual arguments over anything and everything. Atleast today has been the most peaceful Monday in a while (then again, I'm playing Mafia Wars, so I can just vent by killing mobsters.).

Oh yeah...and she ruined her hallway carpeting. Spilled toiletbowl cleaner on it (holy smokes, that stuff is corrosive!!!! It literally ate that patch of carpet!). Had that been me, I would have been given less than 12 hours to pack and leave. Used to be if you spilled any little thing, she would not speak to you for 3 days. Now she's "Oh, now I realize people can have accidents". 89 and you have now just figured this out?

That said: Suggestion needed: She has a Clorox mop thingy for the floors. She has a walker. From Hallway to Bathroom is 5 feet, but effort for her (or another ploy). Any suggestions on how to get the mop from one room to another without putting it down on the carpet? Thanks!

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 22:39:51 -0000

You are soooo right! well she lived before you he'll live after you too

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 01:57:22 -0000

Her reasons for anger today: - Her milk gave her diarrhea (sell by 9/23...today is 9/11) - I got a quote for a second storage unit, Climate Controlled for my cooking mags, musical equipment (She SWEARS she will not get rid of them). - My moving (I'm sorry, I didn't mean it, but your shit was in the way). - I don't know how I will live without you, you do so much for me. (BINGO! Should have though of that before!)

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 15:36:53 -0000

I'm not giving up at all. I won't even live within an hour of her because I will not continue to live like this. We argued again yesterday as I was packing up stuff...."I'm sorry", "I shouldn't have done it...I just wanted your stuff out of the spare room".

I looked around last month when I was packing: She has 6 sets of sheets still in original packaging. She has stuff in the spare bedroom closet, she has 2 full dressers full of towels, bathmats, etc. 2 dressers in her room, plus her closet, plus the hall closet.

Now she glares at me if I put anything in the frig or the pantry.

On the goodside....my b/f had extra unused packing boxes from when he moved and gave them to me. Got some wine boxes from my former boss. And WalMart has storage totes on clearance :)

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 01:32:09 -0000

I'm glad you're sticking with it.freedom is only a fw weeks away don't give up now.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:37:37 -0000

The latest update: More information requested for my Florida Real Estate License, so now it looks like mid-November.

In the meantime, still packing. And my packing comes first. I no longer care if the shrubs get taken care of.

Of course, she is still "I'm Sorry" and "I don't want you to move". Well, when for years I've heard I am a burden, not wanted, in the way....she's just getting her wish now.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:39:28 -0000

You are totally and absolutely right! Good on ya! Stay with the plans you have. Sometimes the road's not easy but the freedom is worth it.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 02:15:21 -0000

Yeah, there is a freecycle here. And Salvation Army.

I figure....I have spent half my life doing what everyone else wanted me to do. It's my fault for allowing my life to be dictated. But....at this point....no more. It is time to live my life the way I want to.....

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:08:15 -0000

Prolly a good plan. I dunno if theres a freecycle near you but thats a good way of getting rid of stuff that you don't use or don't want. freecycle.org Unfortunately she'll up the ante the closer you get to going. trying to "convience" you by guilting you into staying. don't buy it. You don't have to be responsible to anyone but yourself. she is an adult and has made adult choices and continues to do so. Ok we accept that things aren't what they used to be, but none the less, If she has enough cognition to up the ante and guilt you in to things, then she as a grasp on the fact that she does it Stick with your plans

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 22:35:23 -0000

It's frustrating.....I tried so hard to the do the right thing.

Like the song goes: I tried so hard, and got so far, In the end, it doesn't even matter.

We're arguing daily now. I'm so tired of it.

Got a list going of what next to pack and move. What to see if my b/f can stash a few things in his basement (CD's, video tapes, games).

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 20:49:09 -0000

Thank you. I did not think of that. :)

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by An Hour 4 Me @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

An Hour 4 Me — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 19:49:29 -0000

Good points, however I'm staying with the mail move since once you are gone you'll have no choice but to go there to get anything that didn't get changed on time. And of course open yourself up to new abuses. You'll get the "you've abandoned me" routine. It doesn't have to be a right this second kinda thing but I'm thinking it would suck to have your RE license go there and get tossed out. Any way your call not trying to push. Oh my stock answer for why is I am an adult. I Choose to live elsewere. or whatever fits the circumstances. No further explanation needed.

'Moving, Moving, Moving :) ' posted by DolphinsCry @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

DolphinsCry — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:33:20 -0000

Thanks for the suggestion.

Since (1) She can't get to the mailbox, and (2) I'm the one who checks the mail daily - she can't look through or open my mail.

She doesn't understand why I'm "doing this". I've told her - because my stuff is not safe here, because I don't trust her, and I'm sick and tired of her control. I wanted to go to college "not while you live here". I wanted to take Real Estate training here years ago: "Not while you live here".

I'm taking Real Estate training for another state. I know if I stay anywhere near her, I will be doing her shopping, etc., still.

I've gotta go through the other closet today, remove the rest of my clothes. Jackets are packed up and stored. By the end of today, she will have her other closets available with none of my stuff. I've even packed up many of my clothes, leaving minimal.

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