im a good kid, right????

Estrada - I am new to this website, just found it and registered today looking for answers to issues that I am having trouble dealing with that has been put upon me. Everyone of these posts has brought tears to my eyes. I have been having a pity party by myself today as a result of the elderly and certain issues and family members in my life. Your post has brought me out of my self and I just had to say to you that you are a wonderful person, not just good!!!I thank God for people like you. I haven't met many that are not selfish, selfcentered, apathetic, narcistic etc... I am glad that I found this website, because it looks like there are still people like you in the world. I just wish I could know them personally. I don't have any advise, I don't know what to do about (almost, not quite, but almost) the same situation that you are in, but I believe... I have to believe... that those that judge and make a hard situation even harder for people that are trying to do the right thing, will have to answer to it in the long run and there is a special reward for people like you. I know how lonely you feel in your situation and my heart goes out to you. You have really helped me in a special way. Thank you!

thank you so much i cant tell you how good it feels to have someone say such great things. The truth of the matter is i wouldn't trade what i do for anything in the world no one can look at me and tell me they love me like my grandpa does =) . . the best thing i can say is your not alone none of us r alone we take care of people and days it seems like everyone around us, but god has a special place in his heart for us all we are the angels he put on this earth. .days get hard nights are endless but just know you always have someone to talk to, i will be here when ever u need someone to vent to tell stories to, even cry to if need be. It always helps having someone understand. i wish you all the best in the world

Cole

I don't know if you read the welcome posts but if you read the post I wrote you might not think I am an "angel". I feel resentful, angry, confused, at a loss, put upon, tired, guilty and frankly disgusted with the whole situation that has been put upon me. And, I really don't think there is any help for my situation, so I feel helpless. I could write a post that would take up too much time for anyone to read, and still not explain exactly how things got the way they are, because I don't understand myself. I didn't think before, when I was your age, that things would end up like they are in my family and my husbands family (I've known my husband and his family since I was 13). They put everything upon me that they do not want to deal with, then blame me when something goes wrong. I'm just at a loss as to what to do..........................and like I said, having a pity party for myself. I feel like a horrible person for the way I feel. Does that make sense? Anyway, I've been thinking for hours now as to how to fix things but haven't come up with a solution yet. I'll stop with myself now, I don't want to burden you too much, I know you have enough to deal with, I do want you to know that it is a pleasure to meet someone with an attitude that you have about caring for your grandpa. And that you gave me light in my dark corner of earth. ;) You too, have someone to vent to...Vicky

o man i can tell you stories left and right about how mad i was at everyone everthing anyone who would cross my path would get screamed at i would be yelling at god for all the crap i had to deal with in the day. i hated everyone i was alone tierd mistreated and unestimated i would tell god i hated him for taking my grandmother away at such a young age and taking my dad when i thought things couldnt get worse . .i may sound upbeat and i am but everything that doesnt go right is my fault i wasnt there when i should have been i did this i did that how come you cant do this right. i am everyones emotional punching bag when they want to feel good about themself. it happens i still get mad you can ask my family and they will tell you i can be the meanest person ever, but thats the only way i get my point across or get anyone to listen. . people will always say you dont do enough, dont do it right, and our just outright wrong. but thats when you dig your heels in and say the hell with everyone and do what is best for yourself and ur situation. i do not talk to my extended family for that very reason. if something happened to where my grandpa got hurt they would show up screaming sayin it was my fault. the days you feel like crap or beat down by people look ahead and think 2marrow i will be able to handle this a little bit better

Hi Cole, How are you and your grandpa today? Hope all is well. I thought I'd touch base with you to see if you are logged on. Today, like you said, is a lot better and brighter. It has been a beautiful day here, I got to catch up on some housework that has been needing done for awhile. Lots more to do, lol

Yes Nicole you are a good kid. It takes a lot to take care of someone who is sick. But, you know what? Do not expect anyone to help you. If you expect people to help you or to tell you that you are doing a good thing then you will just be disappointed. There's a lot to my story but, for you , just know you are a good one!

he is doing good had his puppy following him everywhere lol which is cute to see a tiny floppy eared pup be his little shadow. I'm so glad to hear you had a better day, hopefully there will be many more to come. monday is my house cleaning. . as for today just waiting for my breakfast with The Beatles to start =]

Hey Cole, sorry I took so long to get back with you. Busy weekend here. My mother-in-law has a little dog too. He is her best friend, sticks to her like glue. lol They sure can keep them occupied. I love animals, and music. I even cleaned house with my music playing, I haven't done that in a long time. It makes the work go so much easier. I'm going to buy the cd Susan Boyle has coming out this fall, even though I don't really like the kind of music she sings, but that voice (WOW) !!!

Hi Nicole, I don't know you but I do know you are ""a great kid"" and some. You are a beautiful young women with so much strength and courage. Please don't wait on any one to thank you for all you do. they can't, they don't know how. Your grandfather is so blessed to have a granddaughter like you and you are blessed to have the privilege to take care of him. I hope you know this is God purpose for you even though it gets tough know God will see you thru this. Keep your faith and remember to keep family members in their places. They have no right to talk or treat you the way they have been. You are the one taking care of your grandfather not them.

Sorry to just reply now.

Welcome to this little thing called "caregiving". I've been doing it for too long, while my family members have their fun.

Seriously, get a counselor.

I reached the end of my proverbial rope in July. Two more steps and I am long gone.

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Aww you are such a smart and caring girl for your age!! You are definitely a good kid..Don't even question it. I am not sure why your family is not telling you good things, but that doesn't mean it's not true. =)

Good luck to your and your grandpa.

Nicole, you are right "you are just a kid" according to age; but, you have become so much more than that. Stand your ground and refuse to be treated badly by anyone! Question? are you all living in the same house? or do you and grandpa live on your own? If you live separated from your family, then YOU are the one IN CHARGE !! Back them off, what's the worst they can do? Fire you? That's not going to happen. Make SLEEP your #2 priority. If grandpa takes a nap, you need to also. Your health and his is what's important. It sounds like everyone has expected you to step into your Moms position of responsiblity since the lose of your dad. That's not, and never will be who you are in the family. You are a wonderful grand-daughter, daughter, sister. I know none of us have time to go out and "join a group of caregivers". We are so very blessed to have this site so we can be here for each other. We are here for you. Chin up shoulders back and ROAR like a lion. love you..