I have been contemplating a support group online. I ran into yours today looking for ideas of how to handle what I believe is sundowning syndrome of my parent who has been living with my husband and I since Oct/09. My mom was 95 on the 22nd of Jan. I'm 55 years old and her only daughter. My brother has been her caretaker for the last 15+ years since Dad died. They lived in her home up north. Mom was having some teeth/gum issues, had lost a considerable amount of weight, I was concerned about her cognitive state and my brother was running out of steam. So I quite my job and decided to bring her to my home and give my brother a much needed break. I have obtained dental and medical care for her but of course have many concerns, questions and emotions between office visits. I have four brothers in total, although, one us two siblings are able and willing to carry this load. My brother has been super for many years, but when Mom becomes sick or needy he doesn't always know what to do. I've worked in healthcare all my life and have the need to keep Mom as health as she can be. Just a brief introduction and I hope to meet more people helping people. Bye for now.
Hi I am new too. I have both of my parents with us. 85 and 83. My mother is starting to have some real issues after being with us 13 months. I work full time in the home, and have no outside help, as far as gardners, laundry, housekeeping etc. Thank the Lord my Dad feeds Mom every morning and does the dishess! My spouse travels for biz about 4-5 months a year. Mom is blind and very disabled and has diabetes. Dad is fine - just aging and has a pace maker. Overall health ok.
I hope to make some friends here, seek advice and perhaps find some resources. So far, I have not found ANY, and feel very alone.
Welcome, Franip, and welcome, CaringforMAD. Feel free to start up discussions as you wish and talk with others here as well for mutual support and advice!
Hi CaringforMAD, I'm as yourself are trying to get the hang of Caring.com. Caring.com is a place of abundant information for Caretakers. I just now found these replies to my first post. I'm sure it can be a little slow going for many of us. What does MAD stand for? Oh, and I'm excited to get to know you.
Thank you LauraL. I'm assumming you are a coordinator. Is this correct?
Hi, Yes, I am a moderator. :)
Yes, very slow going. My mom keeps me busy. Right now I'm stressed because she has been up all night and stubborn to boot. She repeatedly waves her arm outside the bed which sets off this Posey alarm. We purchased it to prevent futher falls. When I turn the thing off I worry about her getting out of bed and falling again. My mom is 95, has arthritis in both knees and dementia. She walks with assistance, only. Unless she decides to wander, LOL. Once an adult, twice a child. How has your day been? Better I hope?
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