My husband recently lost his father after a long battle with cancer. In the year before his passing, the children were each informed of what they were or weren't going to get in the unfortunate case that he passed away. He made some changes to his will in the past year so there would be no squabbling, but also made it a point to tell my husband repeatedly that he would get something in the unfortunate event of his passing. Since he passed we haven't been notified in any formal capacity and it appears there is an assumption that it has all been left to his wife in trust until she passes. It's not an easy to ask question - but since his dad was very clear in telling my husband he would in fact inherit some items after he passed, how do we approach the subject with his wife? Do we ask his estate planner directly? Is there a specific amount of time that is required to pass before wills are read?
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I don't have a great answer to your question. I'm hopeful someone else will. However, if you're talking about personal items, I don't see anything wrong with your husband talking to his dad's wife about how he'd like a few things promised to him to remember his father by. If you're talking about money, maybe ask for a copy of the will. I know it's not easy to talk about, but I'm sure if it was done in a loving way, she would understand.
I, thankfully, haven't got much experience in this, but I'm glad you posted. Certainly others have faced or are facing this same situation and will be helped by the responses you get.
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