Just found out my mom has brain cancer.

Hi Kylee,

Honey, I am so sorry. It's got be quite the punch in the gut to have your mom recover from one illness only to be diagnosed again.

Will they be treating this cancer like they did the lung, with radiation and such? A good side to see is that she did so very well on her other treatments, there should be a really good chance she'll do well this time, too.

It's scary and frightening and angry-making, I know. Be there for her and the rest of your family as they are for you and together, you can make it through anything.

(hugs) my dear.

Hi Kylee,

I just wanted to tell you I'm thinking about your and your mother.  Have you found out any more information?  Can your mom undo radiation to shrink the cancer in her brain?

THERE IS NO WAY TO HELP YOU FEEL ADEQUATE & UP TO THE CHALLENGE EXCEPT TO TELL YOU OF MY EXPERIENCE WATCHING MY MOTHER IN LAW FADE AWAY WITH HEART DISEASE. LIVE EVERYDAY WITH HER, GET HER OUT OF THE HOUSE. A WHEEL CHAIR RIDE AROUND THE BLOCK GIVES A CHANCE FOR MOM TO OBSERVE OLD & FAMILIAR PLACES & PERHAPS SEE A NEIGHBOR OR TWO. OF COURSE THERE WILL BE COMMENTS LIKE "I'LL GET BY TO SEE YOU BUT THATS NOT THE POINT OF THE WALK. IT'S TO GET MOM OUT!!! EVEN FOR SHORT WALK TO THE PARK OR AROUND THE BLOCK. SHE IS OUT OF THE PRISON---HOME. GOOD LUCK & MAYBE THE WALKS WILL PROMPT VISITOR WHO WERE AFRAID TO DROP BY.

NO NO SCRAMPS DOES NOT NEED THE HUG & PRAYERS--OF COURSAE WE ALL DO--BUT IT IS KYLEE WHO NEEDS ALLOUR PRAYERS CHEERS

My Mom had brain cancer. She started out with severe pain, like a bad, bad headache. She was screaming in the ER. They found a brain tumor as big as a grapefruit. It was entwined all aroeund her brain. They did surgery but could not get it all. They had to clip her memory cells and pain cells. We could not tell when she was hurting anymore except for the look on her sweet face. She never knew any of us again. It was so sad. I wanted to remember her the way she was before the tumor, MY MOM, MY FRIEND, but she would never be like that again. They took her downstairs at the hospital for treatments for about a week and we tugged and pulled on her to get her on the stretcher as she was like dead weight, with no feeling. I asked the little sweet Dr. if it was helping. He said no, the cancer is growing back faster than we can treat it. I said, NO MORE. Put her back in bed and let her go peacefully. It was really a relief when she went to be with the Lord. I knew He would take care of her and she wouldn't hurt anymore and she would get her memory back. I know she is up THERE looking down at her family and smiling. She always had the sweetest smile. I hope you get to keep your mother as long as God sees fit, but if and when the time comes, LET HER GO. Everyone has a time to go, whether it be 6 years old or 60 or whatever age. Just love her while she is here and help her all you can. If you do those 2 things, she will rest in peace. God bless you and her and your family.

Kylee, how is your mom doing? I've been thinking about you.

Dear Kylee,

I pray for you and you mother. I was diagnosed with brain cancer over a year ago and had the tumor removed last August (yes, over a year ago!). Mine was a primary brain tumor, meaning it started in the brain. It sounds like your mom has a tumor resulting from her lung cancer (no, I'm not a doctor but have done research) so I can't really speak from direct experience with this type of cancer.

However, my family and I had to deal with the real possibility of my death and extreme financial difficulty was unavoidable. My strength came primarily from two sources. My religion (Catholic) and my wife of almost 38 years. The above poster was certainly correct and I think stated a good perspective. We all have to go sometime. The real fear is of meeting that day alone. I know that our Lord Jesus Christ is going before me and if I take his hand, I have nothing to fear. My wife gave me a card on our last anniversary that said it very well from our marriage's point of view. It discussed the challenges in life in a general way and closed by saying that when all looks lost, to look at my side, she will be there.

May God bless you and give you the strength to be that person for your mom.

I know how you are feeling to a point for my Dad was DX 11/08 with Brain Cancer. He had the Tumor removed and it has grown back in less than 6 months of treatment. He went through Radiation and Chemo with Tremador. He had all the Radiation that they can do. We are trying Chemo again. The Cancer that my dad has is Primary GBM Grade 4. Just be there for your mom. It won't be an easy road to travel but remember you have all kinds of suport out there. Spend every moment you can with her. Help her fight this monster the best way you can. Keep letting her know how much you love her. Let her know that you are here for her. Help her live her life to the fullest that you can. If she wants to do something as long as it won't hurt her let her do it. Just don't give up. At the same time I know it will be hard, you have to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. This is what my dad's Doctors have told us. We are not giving up the fight but we are preparing for the worse. I know that my dad can change at any given time without warning so I tell him every chance I get that I love him. You will have times where you will just want to Cry, scream and yell, you'll even ask God what you did to make him want to take her way from you but, it is nothing you or your mom did that caused this. If you need to cry then cry. If you feel the need to just scream and yell do it, just don't bottle it up inside. That is the worst thing to do.....Keep your head up. Miricals can happen. God Bless you and your Family

My Dad also have a Brain Tumor and went through the Chemo and Radiation. We are waiting for the MRI to come back to see how much is gone. We are also thinking about a clinical trial. Very hard to keep my head up but your right its a up and down thing and the most important thing is to spend time with them.

Kylee I so FEEL your pain. My Mom found our 7 years ago she had a Brain Tumor. She had 33 treatments to shrink it and it did, but still not removable. I too wish I had my Mom back. I have her, but not the same one I knew back in the day. I am the youngest of 7 and instead of her being there for me, I take care of her............When she first found out she had a tumor(her left side was weak), so at first the doctors thought stroke. Then realized it was a tumor..........after radiation she could still get around and do thing. From year to year she has gone down. She really doesn't walk anymore. We have to have a sitter to stay with her, while my sister and I go to work. Lately she sleeps more too. Her tumor is an Anaplastic Astrocytoma. She still goes to Church and places with us in her wheel chair....but she doesn't dress herself or clean herself up(i do that). God Bless U + your Mom and take care of yourself too!

I am replying to a post above. It is about her Mom who was hurting bad with a headache in the ER. Your post touched me and although I've been with Mom(and her tumor) for 7 years. But year by year I see the change in her. I hope I can let her go......when that time comes. I too know she will be in a better place.

i have a friend who had the lung cancer/brain cancer combo 15 years ago. it was aggressively treated & she is alive and well today. it can happen! best of luck to your family.

Hello everyone. Seems we here have all had to face brain cancer, either directly, or deal with a loved one who's been diagnosed. My mother was diagnosed with a GBM Grade 4 tumor back in Feb. '09. She had successful surgery in Houston at MD Anderson (much LOVE to Dr. Weinberg!). Since then she had radiation and chemo treatments, and has been kept on Temodar.

Miraculously she has been cancer free almost a year. ALMOST a year. Her latest MRI did not yield the best results. Turns out she has a re-occurance and starting next Wednesday she'll start a new chemo treatment with Avastin. I'm here looking for some support. The last few days I have been a total mess. All the anxiety, derpression and anger is re-surfacing and I hate that we have to just take it one day at a time, not knowing what to expect. Mom is my heart. She is everything to me.

Ask God to help her in her time of need.

Kylee, HOW IS YOUR MOM DOING? MY MOM HAS CNS LYMPHOMA FOR THE LAST 7 MONTHS.I TOTALLY KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.IT HAS BEEN A ROLLERCOASTER.SO HARD SEEING HER DIE SO SLOWLY.

I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU MUST FEEL. I JUST FOUND OUT MY SISTER HAS BRAIN CANCER AND I AM SO WORRIED AND SAD, I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, SHE MAKES ME CRY WHEN I SEE HOW SAD AND SCRACED SHE IS. sHE FRIST HAD BLATTER CANCER THEN SHE HAD LUNG AND SHE THOUGHT SHE WAS ALL CURED. TWO MONTHS AGO WE FOUND OUT SHE HAS BRAIN CANCER AND SHE IS STILL TAKING TREAMENT THEY WON'T KNOW IF THE RADATION HELPED OR NOT FOR ANOTER 2 WEEKS. she is telling me it's her time is up that god is going to take her,and she is so scared because she is not ready to go yet, she is only 58. IS IT possible for her live some kind of nornal life for a while.SHE COULD NOT HAVE SURGERY, JUST FINISHED WITH RADATION, WILL START KEMO SOON. THANK YOU

My mom also had radiation and the tumor was shrunk. She had the Glioblasta IV and it was biopsied and cancer. We were so hopeful because the tumor shrunk. But she was at the nursing home for rehab and they dropped her.Don't ever lose hope please tell your sister!My mom still remembered all of her 4 kids until the day she died.

thank you pany.My sister is so sick and i'm still so worried because how she think about dying and leaving everone she loves. she just does't understand why it happen to her. I GUESS EVERY ONE FEELS THAT WAY, ITS SO HARD TO WATCH,ANd know what to say. I AM GLAD you sister remembers everyone.I FEEL BAD ISN,T IT HARD. I hope things get better for you.

i was reading the post from staceyT and my mom's a lot alike. the only difference is that her's isnt operable at all. we found out last summer that she has the stage 4 brain tumor so she started chemo and radiation right away. she also is doing Avastin every 2 weeks. she was doing so good with the treatments.. she was finally acting like herself again and it felt like a miracle.

now all of the sudden she seems to not be doing so good. we got a recent mri back and it showed no shrinkage this time and also a whiteish thing around the tumor. they think that that is new growth. i don't understand why the treatments aren't working all of the sudden. Today she was driving to the dentist and had to pull over because she couldnt remember where to go. I hate this so much. It's seriouslt been just about a year and my dad is so scared because so many people said that brain tumors mostly giv eyou 12 months to live. I can't belive that.

i go to school out of town and i really dont want to leave her in a couple months.

I just wish people wouldn't blame God. He gave us free rein on earth but never promised us a " rose garden" here. He will be there if the person dying has accepted him as Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior to take them to our heavenly home. People will be stricken with disease or accidents etc. Just love every second with your loved one like i did my mother when she was passing and if you believe in God he will not forsake you or your loved one. Godbless everyone.

hugs and prayer have faith.

God bless you

My heart & prayers go out to you & your family. My dad had brain cancer in 1997 & 1998.

Dear All,

My Dad was diagnosed this July with AA Grade III brain tumour. Along with dealing with the shock of it happening, we had to deal with how much to tell my Mom, manage the house , his business. We are still trying our very best. He is undergoing radiation and chemotherapy right now et he is being very brave about it. Not once does he complain but just goes through with everything. We are really hoping for the very best and can understand all and everybody and their anger and hope for their loved ones. He is right now suffering from all the side effects one can suffer from such a treatment and we can just watch et be there for him. So please just hang in there and take one day at a time, some days will be good , some horrible , just like today for us. But then there is always hope for tomorrow. God Bless all.