How do you do this how do you go on when your rock is crumbling. My mom is all I got left. I lost my dad at a young age of 16 , mom was everything to me. if mom can't fix it, it sure is broke. But now mom is broke now and i do not mean money wise, i am talking health . It's hard to see her like this ,not knowing who she is who i am what she is talking about. She babbles about weird things, talks about people events that are not there. We just put her in a home for her own safety four months ago. I am having a hard time going to see her I see her about every two weeks , I know I should go more . I know it but i get so upset myself every time i go im not use to seeing her like this. I'm the baby of the family and my brothers do not even let me know anything they put her here without asking me anything i have no say in anything now and im hurt. But mostly i want mom taken care of . its harder to see her every time im there she prays to god to take her please let me die she says. yes she is on depression med's to . My mom was a very proud well to do woman and now she can't even feed her self right. How do I cope with this, how do I help her grand kids and mostly how do I help her. I miss my mom and i think mom misses herself to. So many times i reach fro the phone just to call her to talk to her but I can't anymore. i feel like i lost my mom but she's still here in pain just here.. that snot what she wants what do I do? is there anything i can do? help
Caring for your elderly parents comes with a learning curve. We can't hope to know everything we'll need to know, or be fully prepared for the experience, but it helps to have others share their experiences, ideas, and most importantly, their feelings about the changes in their parents, and in themselves and their own lives.
To that end, we invite you to share those things you wish you had known when you started having to deal with a parent with Alzheimer's.
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