Hi Barbie, I hear you! I think one of the challenges of caring for parents or grandparents of that age, is that there really is a sort of cultural training that they had which was that it's the women's role to do the primary caregiving. That is changing now, but there is a strong current for us to be the ones doing the primary caring. Do you just need to vent, or do you need help with some caring or other resources? Sometimes I just want to vent, and my husband wants to 'fix it' for me. 
Hi, my name is Barbie . I am 24 years old , married to the best guy and we have a son. I recently quit my job to stay at home and care for my grandmother.Not to long before I quit I just finished Phlebotomy school. Then that when I found out that I had to quit to care for her. She has two other kids both boys my mom is the only girl. The only ones doin anything in this family is my mom and our family. They all live no more then 15 mins away. But yet, we still have to do everything for her. My grandmother makes excuses for them as to why they dont come around or dont call. She has always done that for them. But for my mom and her family we have had to always drop everything and do whatever she wanted us to do. I mean I love my mama so much and I do enjoy the time that I get to spend with her. It is just hard dealing with someone that has dementia. My mama also has CHF so he goes into the hospital every couple of months. That when her other kids and grandkids will come and see her only when she is in the hospital. That just upsets me both for my mama and the fact that they only seem to care when she could leave us. We dont say anything about it to them. But, i want more than anything to just tell them how I feel. They will say well we will talk to you later or see ya soon. But they want, not till she is back in the hospital.
With taking care of her we have good time and not so good. She not to far gone but, yet she is slowly getting there.There are day when it seems like old times me and her hanging out and talking. Then there are other times when I have to say what i am doin, why i am doin that and how come i am doin that, repeatedly. I dont really get to take my boy out and play like we should. I mean somtimes I can and she does really good. Other times I have to stay within earshot so she can hear me and still ask all kinds of questions. Those are the days where we just stay inside and play. So please, if anyone has any suggestions on what I should do. Please feel free to tell me. thanks for letting my get off my chest how i feel. thanks
You will be blessed by what you are doing for your loved one, in so many ways. You are setting a good example for your child, also, I would also like to add that it's important to still have playdates for your son, go to the library, play a game of catch in the backyard, etc, so your son ( and you0 can have plenty of "me time." This will help all of you to amaintain your strength for the long haul. We have found that Gmom likes to watch cartoons with her greatgrandson. she also likes to sit outside and read the newspaper while he plays in the dirt with his shovel. 
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