Help with a parent with alzheimers

Hi Anonymous,    It sounds like there are 2 different questions that you are crappling with.  One is who is going to care for your dad and how, and the other is, what's the best way to help your mom as her alzheimer's progresses.  Has your mom been the care taker for your dad, or the other way around, or someone else?  Can you take some time and sit with your mom and really hear her - what she is feeling, can you walk through with her through her anger?  Does that make any sense?  

Hi Anonymous. I'm sorry to hear about these difficulties! Has she been evaluated by a doctor recently?  Perhaps they would have some advice and suggestions for you as well. Perhaps also look into a caregiver who specializes in dealing with Alzheimer's patients - he or she may well have some insights from experience. Good luck and let us know how things are progressing!