'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:12:46 -0000

Dear Omegareport:

You are doing all the right things for your wife. It takes a strong soul to stay beside her as you have. Your love and caring for her speaks volumes. As I have witnessed even now after my Dad's passing, and my Mom is now hospitalized for other illnesses, there are many things that can happen in hospitals and nursing homes when we are not there to care for our loved ones. I've found that although you can't change things, your holding her hand and letting her know you are still there caring for her means so much to her. Human touch, the sound of your voice, all these are necessary even for the sick and dying. Our God is a Mighty God and he will not forsake you or your wife. Keep the faith. I've been witness to too many miracles and had many prayers answered in my lifetime. I believe there is a purpose for everything. God love you and be by your side along with your dear wife. Prayers are powerful and will continue. MercyMe

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by snow @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

snow — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 17:20:22 -0000

for puppy

I just wanted to say to you that you are not the only one who gets these thoughts. I had a very small family. My brother drowned, my Dad committed suicide, and now my Mom is suffering with this inhuman nightmare. Plus, I made mistakes along the way with her process because she would not obtain treatment. The short version for now anyway is I think the hospital staff is lying to me and put someone else's name on a petition for guardianship under the table or at least it was very bad communication. I think it was done on purpose because I had made my wishes very clear to the social worker in charge. The petition may be fixed by her attorney as that is not done. But in the very least it has been another nightmare added to a drowning plate of illness, grief, extreme mental duress for myself and my Mom. I would warn people make sure of all the steps that will be taken AFTER any action you take regarding a hospital BEFORE you take any actions. PLEASE I hope I can save even ONE person from my error. Sometimes it happens just because of understaff, the crazy legal system and miscommunication between all involved but it does not matter why it happens. It is just something you would NOT WANT TO GO THROUGH or your already suffering loved one.

There also has been other statements said to me that my Mom has been told she will enter a faciollity and "is fine with it". That is just NOT TRUE. My Mom still has her mind much of the time and acts very normal and just like herself. She remembers the whole process of being taken to the hospital and I thought she would forget and the process did not go as stated to me. They have not told her any such thing. She has stated this to me and I know it is true. Point being I feel they just want me out of the picture so they can stick her where they want to and if they get a stranger for a guardian they are on the road. I am not going to make this long with ever detail but PLEASE DO NOT GO THE PATH OF A COURT HEARING. Go with the local social service people and ask all questions what will happen before they come out and what rights you and the person have or find out legally. I will never be the same after all this. I need a shrink myself and I feel like they are destroying us both.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by puppy @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

puppy — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 10:22:37 -0000

I don't mean to throw a negative thought into this already depressing subject, however, after watching my poor father suffer through every step of this horrible disease, I don't see how ALL OF YOU talk about God and God Bless You and your Faith. Faith in WHAT? Why do they have to suffer this in the first place? I don't think God "has a PLAN for us" by having these poor people suffer through this. That would be kind of cruel, don't you think? Especially by "God". I can see an enemy making someone suffer like this, but not an all merciful, kind God? And please don't say that I just have to believe and pray and trust in the Lord. Why should I trust something or someone that let's this happen to one of his "most faithful servants" on this earth who has, at the very least, gone to church to serve "The Lord" every day of his life . I say, thanks for nothing.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by omegareport @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

omegareport — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 04:40:44 -0000

Penny is now in intensive care, on life support. FOur attempts to get her admitted through the ER for the coughing and mucus - three were denied ... "it's probably psychological, related to the AAlzheimer's." Not so! I have a website called the-phoenix-project.org - it's about energy healing, all kinds. There's a chapter there called Penny's story that chronicles her struggle to live.

She was upstairs at the hospital and they didn't check on her for 5 hours, removed her IV and her heart monitor, saying they wanted to force her to eat solid food by giving her drugs to increase her appetite. That last coherent night (April 14), she was bright-eyed, lucid and affectionate. The next morning I got a call to come to the hospital - it was an emergency.

Kidneys stopped, a stroke has paralyzed her left side, her pulse was 200 and her blood pressure 40/20 when it stopped registering altogether. They tried three times to put a breathing tube down her throat - but that "imaginary" blockage that kept her from swallowing prevented it. Three times they "Cardio-verted" her (the shock pads) to restart her.

Tonight, after a heavy diet of energy-healing CD's with a soft music background ... and some heroic efforts by the ICU unit, she's off most of the emergency drugs, her blood pressure is better than mine , her urine output is almost normal ... and she may live. I don't know in what shape, but I'll be there for her.

Lord, you gave me a mountain (so says that old Frankie Lane song), and I may be on my knees, crawling, but I'm still climbing up that mountain.

Your prayers and your hopes are very,very, VERY much appreciated and I am humbled. I don't know what tomorrow brings, for all the other challenges are still there, but she knows I love her and she can feel my hand holding hers.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 18:51:26 -0000

Dear Omegareport,

I was really struck by your story of your dear wife. How heartbreaking for you to see her suffer so.

My Dad died 3 months ago to this disease, and it is merciless. Here was a man who fought the Battle of Bulge, survived his captivity by the German soldiers in a prison camp, lost toes to gangrene, had TB earlier on in life, raised 9 children with his wife of 61 years and yet suffered his last 4 years to Alzheimer's. He lived his last days feeling that he was abandoned by his family. He tried desperately with each visit to the nursing home to put on his hat and come home with us. It hurt so bad to tell him he could not come, and that he needed to stay and get better. The only good thing was that he would not remember this the next day.

I truly believe through it all, that our God is an awesome God and He will not forsake you or your sweet wife. It will remain a mystery to us until we meet in Heaven as to what purpose this suffering here on earth has done for us or our caretakers.

Please know that although i don't have the answers, I will pray for both of you that the Lord gives you strength to get through this. If my Dad could have his say, he'd tell you, "keep your chin up, and have faith". He use to say this in his darkest times, and he made it through the worst of them. God's love and prayers.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by omegareport @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

omegareport — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 17:37:59 -0000

I am watching my wife waste away from this most horrible of all mental disease. Once a beautiful and caring holistic chiropractor who did her best to eat the right foods, exercise, avoid drugs, etc., etc. - here she is, bedridden (also with severe rheumatoid arthritis and having suffered two TIA strokes).

Tho I knew her for 20 years, we got married only 3 years ago - after her strokes, after being driven nearly insane by a greedy son who demanded nothing but her money and her property, after being robbed of her retirement income by a "Christian" neighbor who convinced her to owner-finance the sale of 26 acres, which she (the neighbor) then never paid for.

I knew when I married her that we'd have a tough time, but I never imagined anything like this. I've prayed for patience all my life and now, though I know why, I feel like I haven't prayed hard enough. I go for days without sleep trying to be there for her when she needs kleenex, a wastebasket to cough up into, or gets tangled up in her covers and cries out for help.

At times I literally just want to shoot myself in the head, it hurts so bad to see and hear her in pain. She has violent coughing spells, spitting up buckets of clear mucus ... the doctors say they find nothing, because when she's in the ambulance or at the hospital, it seems to stop, only to start right back up as soon as she leaves. She's terrified of again being put in a nursing home to die, and pumped full of morphine and other mind-altering drugs - as happened to her before we married.

I've tried getting help through the Tennessee Medicaid Waiver program, but it seems their goal is to force you to drag it out so long you just die and then it becomes a moot case. Legal Aid is too backlogged to help. We're facing imminent default and foreclosure from a greedy mortgage company (Countrywide Financial) and face being homeless. Lawyers want $7,000+ cash up front to even look at the possibility of getting the property back she was defrauded out of.

We have only our meager Social Security incomes, which barely covers the mortgage. Both our life savings have been wiped out. I've turned everywhere I can for help. It seems there is none.

Since traditional medicine says there is no cure, I am experimenting with electromagnetic frequencies (specific tones) masked by soothing, relaxing music. It helped bring her 180/110 blood pressure down to normal within 10 days (and it has stayed pretty normal) when powerful drugs were of no help.

I've started a website at www.the-phoenix-project.org which may help some of you who've tried everything traditonal medicine has to offer. I make no guarantees - no one can - but it may be a last-ditch place to turn.

All of your stories here are so heart-breaking. I don't understand why a loving God would allow such a horrible ending to a beautiful life. Perhaps it is this person's sacrifice, made knowingly and willingly, to help those of us who are the caregivers and survivors, become better than we ever thought we could be. I just don't know. I just know my heart breaks every night and then again every morning when I look at her to see if she's still breathing.

And you might watch "The Notebook" - it's a joyful, yet sad movie about Alzheimer's starring James Garner. We've watched it together, often, and - just as often I have to turn my face away so she won't see the tears.

God bless us all and have mercy.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by LauraL @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

LauraL — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 16:00:41 -0000

Georgia, I am so sorry to read of your loss. Please know we are thinking the best thoughts for you and your family.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:06:36 -0000

Georgia,

I think about you and your family often. I told my sisters this weekend about your Dad and that he had passed on. We were saying how it's really something how no matter what side of this planet we reside on, we are all part of God's plan, and we share in the same joys, love, prayer and unfortunately grief too. It has been a pleasure conversing with you during a time when we both needed a shoulder to lean on. I have kept your email address and will certainly keep in touch with you. Please add me to your address list as well at clawdie2003@comcast.net. Claudette

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by JOYFUL9574 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

JOYFUL9574 — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 02:14:53 -0000

Mercyme, (claudette) I just want to thank you for being that listening ear,in my time of grief.Like you i feel the pain of the loss of a Dad. It just felt comforting to have someone to talk to that was feeling the same grief and new just the right words to say,when i needed them most. Thanks for your inspiring words of encouragment. I always look forward to your e-mails. I am so glad your mother is home and doing much better, I know she has a loving and supporting family that keeps her going. My prayers are with you and her , and please feel free to e-mail me at my e-mail address at joyful9574@aol.com. God bless you and your family . Look forward to hearing from you,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Sincerely ,Georgia

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 20:19:17 -0000

Dear Georgia,

Please accept my deepest and most sincere sympathy in the loss of your Dad. He is now at peace in the Lords house along with my Dad. No more pain or confusion. Your Dad is now joined with his sweet bride in heaven. I know your heart must be broken. I still have moments when I think of my father and miss him dearly. It was two months yesterday since his death.

My Mother is being discharged from the nursing home to go back to her home on Saturday. She is doing pretty well and her legs are strong enough to walk with just a cane, no more walker.

You and your family are certainly in my prayers and I know that God is watching over us.

Let's keep in touch. Anytime you want to chat, I am here to lend an ear.

Nice friends don't come easy. Claudette

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by JOYFUL9574 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

JOYFUL9574 — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 03:58:12 -0000

Hi,Claudette I know its been a few days since i last talk to you. But we were busy getting Dad transfered to the hospice house here in S.C. The transition went well, actually better than i thought it would. We were able to have dad transfered all in one day.I went up to Hendersonville N.C. on Monday morning and had dad back home in S.C. in the hospice house by 7:30 monday night. It was so nice to to have him finally home where he long to be, close to his family. It truely was a wonderful home coming for all dads children and grandchildren. Unfortunately dad passed away Wednesday at 1:00 p.m. I thank GOD that i was able to be with him when he drew his last Breath..It still feels like i am having a bad dream , and i will walk up soon,I feel so empty and loss with out him to hug and tell him every thing will be allright. I can;t even start to imagin what you have had to go through since the passing of your dad. I appreciate your prayers for dad not to have to suffer long,because he didn't. Tomorrow we will have his funeral at my brothers church, At this time i feel so helplessly weak ,but i know god will give me the grace and strength to make it through. Please continue to keep us in your prayers as we will you. Hows your mom doing? I sure hope everthing is looking up for her . Please keep me updated on her and we will continue to keep her and your family in our prayers, god bless and take care.......Georgia

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:57:19 -0000

Hi Joyful/Georgia,

Sorry to hear that your Dad will be moved to hospice. At least he will be closer to home than he is now. Still it is very sad to know that there is nothing they can do for him. I'll pray for him that God doesn't allow him to suffer a long time. That makes it hard on all concerned to watch their loved ones go through the confusion and the pain. We had the same problem with having to drive to another town miles away to see our Dad. It took 45 min one way. He was moved to the hospital for pneumonia which was only 20 min from us, but the Lord took him before we could move him to a closer facility. My brother passed away at the young age of 46. I was thinking this morning how my Dad must be with him, at least I'm hoping this is the case. I pray for both of their souls. My Dad would say in his end days, "I am not longed for this world anymore, my time is done here". He is in a much better place i am sure.

My Mom was doing better until this morning. They were preparing to move her to a nursing home skill care unit to get her legs strengthened. Well this morning they decided to pull her entire bandage off the arm that she fell on, and it is hurting her an awful lot and bleeding all over again. So now i don't know that they can move her today, until she mends from her fall. Poor her, she's been through so much.

Good luck with placing your father. I pray they take good care of him and keep him comfortable throughout his last days. God bless him. Bye for now, Your friend Claudette

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by snow @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

snow — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 05:54:16 -0000

To annoymous,

wish it was a magic pill to return her back to normal. Sometimes I cry because I know she is fighting this thing so hard. Until she asked me other day was she going crazy.

About the above quote from your reply what made her say that?? Does she know what is going on?? Has she been diagnosed?

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by snow @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

snow — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 05:51:52 -0000

To the top square in particular what phsical suffering is known to the AZ person?

I don't mean to sound like a rum dumb but I know my Momis afraid of her food about half of the time so of course she is not enjoying her food for sure. And lots of anxiety about food and so much. However, it seems each situation is different and I was hoping she is not experience alot of physical discomfort at this point.

For the ones in the home do they give them pain relief and drugs to calm them down??

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by JOYFUL9574 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

JOYFUL9574 — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 03:19:02 -0000

Mercy me, as always its nice to hear from you. but i am so sorry to hear about your mom.I sure hope everything is going to be o.k. I know the days ahead will be hard for her as well as you and the rest of your family. How long was your mom and dad married? I know you said you came from a large family. Which is something you don't see any more,But like we said we are blessed to have a large loving family. The nursing home has ask us to start hospice on dad this week. which i knew was coming because of him not eating . I just hope he doesn't have to suffer long. My prayers have always been that he would go peaceable in his sleep. Pray that we can get dad home to a hospice house here in the state, It's about a 50 mile trip one way to the nursing home. and we are trying to get him as close as we can. Looking forward to hearing from you soon. We will remember your mom in our prayers also.... GOD BLESS .... Georgia

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 14:26:09 -0000

Georgia, It's so nice to hear from you. I was thinking about my Dad the other day and listening to his voice sing on a recording we had of him. I began to wonder how you and your family were doing, and if a decision had been made about his cancer. How sad for all of you to watch him suffer. That is the only part I don't miss about my Dad, is seeing him in anguish and not being able to make things better. I hated to leave him once I was at the nursing home, but I had to get home and care for my family as well. This sounds like the right decision you all have made. I will pray for Claude, and how can I forget his name now. That's so coincidental isn't it? I take it he is french, because my name is definately a french name. I am so sad to hear that the cancer has spread to his throat. I will light a candle for him this week when I make my visit to the Precious Blood Monastery here in my town. We too felt as though we could not have made it without God's help and blessings. What do people do without faith? We are too weak to go it alone. I appreciate your keeping me updated, and I will continue to pray for him and your dear family.

My Mom is 82, and she took a fall this past weekend, when my youngest brother of 40 called her from Budapest to tell her that his son was born. They are 6 hrs difference and he forgot she was in bed. When she got up from bed, her legs were weak and she took quite a fall going for the phone. She is in the hospital with her arm all bandaged. All her skin came off so they are treating it like a burn. They thought she may have suffered a mini stroke, but the CT Scan showed nothing. We are just waiting for her to get strong enough to go back home again. On Valentines Day she fell and we had her at the doctors. She told the nurses that my Dad just died last month. She said to them, "it's Valentines Day and my heart is broken". She began crying, and they felt so badly as they tried to console her. It's been tough, and I hope God gives us some time to heal from my Dad's loss before he comes for my sweet Mother.

My prayers are with you, keep in touch. Claudette

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by JOYFUL9574 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

JOYFUL9574 — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 22:08:28 -0000

Hi ,Mercyme (Claudette)

I been wanted to get back with you for a while now. but i have been really busy with dad. We went to the Radiologist about dad's cancer. And he feels like we do about the cancer ,even though it has progressed further.he feels dad is really to far in to alzhemier's and feels like we need to focus more on making dad as comfortable as possible. And i agree one hundred percent. I spent the day with him yesterday. He has started having horrible headaches and now he is not eating much at all,Iknow he can't last much longer like this . The nurse told me that the cancer is in his throat now. Yesterday i just sat and held him untill he went to sleep. If it weren't for the help of god i couldn't make it. I still desire your prayers to keep me going . It's horrible , but i have learn to take a day at a time.

My prayers are still with you at the loss of your dad , I know it doesn't get any easier. But like you said we have to be there for them while we can, Thank you for being a shoulder to lean on, in this critical time. By the way i love your name, My dad's name is Claude, Is that not a coincident. thanks again for your prayers, GOD BLESS YOU, and take care................. Georgia

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by Anonymous @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

Anonymous — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:40:02 -0000

Snow:

My mother seems to have the same symtoms, But she only thinks that something is going to happen to me and my children. She worry all the time if we have enough food and she wants me to keep money in my pockets. Me and her were so close before she got sick and I miss my mother so bad until I wish it was a magic pill to return her back to normal. Sometimes I cry because I know she is fighting this thing so hard. Until she asked me other day was she going crazy.

I tried explaing her condition to her but she can't retain it, I can only make her feel safe for the moment. She had to be put into a nursing home and she really thinks that it is something I can do to change her situation. I just reassure my mother that it's going to be alright and I love her.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by snow @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

snow — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:02:36 -0000

snow responded less than a minute ago :
lovetorn or anyone who knows

In regard to the paranoia and hallucinations did a medical person ever eplain the reasons?

My Mom thinks my eyes are bloody or different colors and my body is otherwise distortred. She is afraid at times the food is being poisoned and her pills have rat poison.

Has anyone had trouble getting the A person to take meds because of this? Did medical people ever tell you you could not be a craregiver for such a reason or other memory problems? Thanks

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by snow @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

snow — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 20:53:40 -0000

lovetorn or anyone who knows

In regard tothe paranoia and hallucinations did a medical person ever eplain the reasons?

My Mom thinks my eyes are bloody or different colors and my body is otherwise distortred. She is afraid at times the food is being poisoned and her pills have rat poison.

Has anyone had trouble getting the A person to take meds because of this? Did medical people ever tell you you could not be a cregiver for such a reason or other memory problems? Thanks

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:19:53 -0000

Hello Joyful,

It's always a pleasure to hear from you and talk about our Dad's. I do feel like we have such a common ground that we are related. You talking about your Dad reminds that although I've lost my Dad, that you and so many others are at this very moment are still facing these big decisions on a daily basis just like we did. Wondering if they are receiving the proper care, questioning a bed sore, wondering if a medication is creating worse problems with side effects than it is helping, worrying that if he needs surgery that he may not be strong enough to get through it. These are all very real matters that need to be handled every day and worries that you carry on your heart while at work. Never knowing if the phone rings, will it be the nursing home saying he fell again because his legs are so weak. In the last stages my Dad lost his appetite, he weighed 119 lbs, he was so thin. He had no memory of what had just happened moments before. He began to lose himself before reaching the bathroom which was sad to see happen to a man who had so much pride. The very last days, he thought he was at work back many years ago and the nurses were his co-workers and they made him work late. He had them call my Mom one night and apologized for not being home from work on time because his boss made him work late. She assured him it was okay to work overtime. I'll tell you something on the lighter side. My sweet father enjoyed a couple beers at night when he was still home. In the nursing home he would mention how if we cared about him that we'd sneak in a beer for him on occasion. He'd whisper this and laugh. So my sister brought him an O'Doole's non-alcoholic beer and dumped it into a red cup and he was so thrilled as we sat in the dining room drinking beer. He would tell her to hide the can so they wouldn't catch him. We all got a kick out of the fact that he really thought it was his Heineken he was drinking. Many fond memories to look back at. He was a man of humor even to the end. What a sweet person he was.

I will pray for you and your family today that God helps you to make the right decision on treatment of his cancer. I'm glad to see that although this is a difficult time that God has helped you as he did with us to enjoy each moment you have with him. Always a pleasure to chat with you. Keep me posted on your Dad's care, I think about you and your family having to face these decisions daily. Take care and keep in touch. My name is Claudette by the way.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by JOYFUL9574 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

JOYFUL9574 — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:30:58 -0000

Thanks Mercy Me,

I Cherish every moment i have with Dad, And as you said, i never miss a day of telling him i love him, And giving him a hug. I appreciate you writing me back, i feel like i am talking to my sister.God has blessed us both to have such large families And wonderful parents. I was sad to hear of your dad's passing,But as much as you miss him, i know you have a peace about him not suffering anymore.Taking care of them is like taking care of our children,we love them and dont want to see them suffering,My prayers are with you every day.We go tomorrow to talk to his doctor.He's got to where he's not eating and taking his medication , I am afraid he is in his last stages of alzheimer's.And the cancer we just don't know how far it has progressed.I hope after tomorrow we will know more at what we are looking at. Keep us in your prayers tomorrow and thanks again. It means so much to have some one to talk to and feel like they are holding your hand when you need it most. God bless you.......

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by MercyMe @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

MercyMe — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:50:48 -0000

Dear Joyful, There are certainly many simularities aren't there? My Dad constantly thought my Mom was with another man, because he could not remember she had just visited him. We had to put her on the phone with him to assure him she had not left him. So sad. I'm so sorry to hear that your Dad is also dealing with cancer as well. How awful to have to make that decision. Have you and your sibblings decided what to do yet? My Mom was an avid believer in doing everything while he was alive to help him obtain quality of life. The week before his death she even wanted to allow the doctors to put in a pacemaker, which I did not think was a good idea. I felt he wasn't strong enough to get through the surgery. I pray God helps you to make that decision. Also, I am amazed that you have 9 brothers and sisters because we are a family of 9 children. Three brothers and five sisters, and i am the sixth child. We lost my oldest brother at 46 from heart problems. He died 14 years ago. I was really amazed that you had 9 sibblings. Not too many big families anymore. We are all close and love each other dearly. Mostly, we have been in agreement on any decision making for both our parents. I truly wish you well in the caretaking of your dear father. They are so dependent on their children when they become that ill, and really need us to be there for them. My Mom said to me yesterday that she really missed my Dad and that she was in bed the other night and said to him outloud that she needed a hug and a kiss. Awe...so touching. As it is now 4 weeks ago since his death, I am finding it hard to not hear his voice or hold his hand and kiss his cheek and look in his eyes and say, I love you Dad. I miss that a lot. I took several mini videos of him on my cell phone, and I love to watch them. Be sure to tell him how much you love him, and take lots of pictures and or videos. I kept thinking he'd be around forever and now he's gone. Just enjoy every moment you spend with him and savour that for future memories. God bless you through it all.

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by JOYFUL9574 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

JOYFUL9574 — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 02:32:43 -0000

TO MERCY ME, AS I READ YOUR COMMENT ON YOUR DAD, MY HEART ALMOST SKIP A BEAT.I THOUGHT SOME ONE WAS DESCRIBING MY DAD, HE SUFFERS THE SAME ILLNESS AS YOUR DAD,AND ALSO CRIES ALOT .THINKING MY MOM HAS LEFT HIM FOR ANOTHER MAN, BUT MOM PASSED AWAY 12 YRS.AGO. HE STILL THINKS SHE IS ALIVE,AND REFUSES TO COME SEE HIM. BESIDES THE EYE DISEASE,ALZHEIMERS,HE ALSO HAS SKIN CANCER, THE DOCTOR HAS OPERATED TWICED BUT THE SKIN CANCER IS BACK.AND I BELIEVE IT IS WORST .A LARGE KNOT HAS POP UP ON HIS FACE,HE 'S SUCH A LOVING HUMBLE MAN . EVEN THOUGH ITS HARD TO UNDERSTAND HIM WHEN HE TRIES TO TALK, I LOVE HIM DEARLY, AND IT KILLS ME TO SEE HIM LIKE THIS, WHAT IS EVEN WORST,NOW THE DOCTORS WANT TO GIVE HIM RADITION TREATMENTS, FOR THE CANCER. I HAVE BEEN PRAYING FOR GOD TO GIVE US WISDOM AS TO WHAT WE NEED TO DO.I HAVE 9 BROTHERS AND SISTERS AND WE HAVE GOT TO COME TOGETHER ON THIS. I CAN'T STAND TO SEE HIM SUFFER ANYMORE. PLEASE PRAY FOR US .AND WE WILL PRAY FOR YOU. GOD BLESS YOU...

'Father is only 56yrs old w/ Alzheimers' posted by online2 @ {post.created_at.to_s(:post_time)}

online2 — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 00:53:24 -0000

My mom was diagnois with Alzhimers in 2007 and now things has gotten to the point were I had to make the decission to place my mother into a nursing home for protection and care. She has started to forget things, when she stayed along. She had started to burn up pots and pans, she couldn't even remember to pay bills, and sad to say her neighbors really took advantage of that. Now, my family members is not speaking to me because they feel like I could have done more for mother.

But, I am not worried about them because they didn't do anything for her anyway. She not to happy about her new setting but she adjusting because she can't remember her past. As long as my mother is safe she had begin to wander at night and I prayed and asked God to let me make the right decission and he did.

Now, she in a place were I can go see her anytime I get ready without the fear of finding her hurt or gone. She get's her medication on time, and meals,bath etc.

So, I learn that you have to be patience with this type of illness. But it's going to be alright.

Peace

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