Oh gosh, that must be extremely frustrating! My initial thought was to have him clean himself up if that's the case, but if he's got Alzhiemer's that might not be the most prudent thing to do, plus he's not a child.

Here's a link to an expert answer on getting someone to wear adult diapers. I hope this helps! 

I had the same problem with my husband, however, our Primary Physican told him it was time and low and behold  it worked. Prior to that it was almost impossible to get him to wear one. Good luck. Barbara J

Sometimes it helps to just "keep it simple".  Try this tactic first (Plan A):

1)  Don't discuss it with him.

2)  Remove any kind of regular briefs from his dressers or where he would find them.  Replace those with "pull ups" (the kind that go on just like briefs vs. the kind you tape on like diapers)

3)  Lay clothes out the night before, putting the pull ups with his other clothes. 

4)  When you find he has become incontinent, stay calm and nonchalant.  Just say, "oh, your clothes are wet, let's put some fresh ones on.  I love how you look in these black (or whatever clean ones you want to put on) pants." Provide fresh pull ups at the same time.
 

5)  Don't discuss it with him.

Let us know how it works. If it doesn't , try for a Plan B:

Ask the dr. to write on a prescription pad, "Wear medicated underwear"  (This is what's called a "Therapeutic fiblet"---Telling a non-truth for the benefit and emotional comfort of the dementia patient.  Put the prescription on the refrigerator and if your husband questions the pull ups, gently lead him to the fridge and say, "Dr. so and so called yesterday.  I just picked them up last night.  He wants you to wear them to keep from getting an infection."  End of story.  Don't ask your husband questions about it.  Just be calm, gentle, and non-judgmental.

Remember to plan ahead for future needs of you or your husband.  There are very few people who can keep a loved one with dementia at home up until the end.  Decide what your "breaking point" will be, have a plan, and when the time comes, move forward with it, knowing you can give your husband your wonderful gift of love, no matter where he is.  It's not what you say or do, it's how you make him feel.  Good luck and take comfort in the care you have provided your husband all this time.

At Assisted Living, the suggestion was to remove all my mother's underpants and replace them with the pull-ups.  For the first few days she was upset, but they kept telling her that this was the new disposable underwear.  After a couple of mornings of reminders we had no more problems with her wearing the "disposable" underwear!

Thabk you everyone for the ideas. I am working on it and getting a favorable response with your numerous ideas.

Thanks again