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Actually, he is remaining occupied.Tapping on tables is likely a comforting way for him to be doing something, to be involved, and maybe even express himself.
There is tru...
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I'm smiling as I read about your conundrum re: your husband writing love letters to young women.
Why?
A fellow caregiver encountered a similar problem in reverse. Her hus...
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As dementia makes it more difficult for your mother to remember, she will get confused from old memories of her home.
When dealing with challenges like this, I often put m...
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These are just some of the struggles we encounter when loved one’s depression or dementia causes off behavior.
From what you describe, it is likely a combination of both—d...
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It's hard to determine if someone moaning feels better; especially, without knowing anything more about your husband. So, I'll give you a real-life example with more detail...
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I can't say I've seen any research to suggest that Alzheimer's is more aggressive in men.
Instead, what seems to be happening is your dad has entered the paranoid stage of...
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Rose Mary, what a wonderful situation your friend has set up--a team of friends to help her despite her resistance to in-home care.
From what you describe, I agree that sh...
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When you write "mom thinks I'm stealing" from her you are presented with two situations--one, a mom who is afraid and two, because she's trying to hold on.
Sadly, when our...
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What deeply thoughtful considerate responses to the other woman's question re: being involved with a married man.
This is a common question among caregivers that is often ...
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Despite your husband's anger issues, you should visit him IF that's what YOU wish to do.
You don't mention if his issues are a result of dementia or other illness. Those c...
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There is no simple answer to whether or not you should see your dad before he dies; however, these two perspectives should give you some grounding.
First, the fact that yo...
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{{{YOU}}} need a (virtual) hug. Finding your grandfather already deceased is traumatic; especially, after you've been caring for him every day.
Without knowing his conditi...
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WARNING: The time passes quickly when you try to get a holiday rest from caregiving.
So, what can you do?
Answer: Not much.
Here are some helpful TIPS to make sure you f...
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Rest in confidence that your mother will not be alone on Christmas Day.
Even with mild dementia, your mother will be entertained by other families visiting loved ones and ...
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Getting your husband to visit the dentist is a challenge that can be overcome.
First, find a dentist in your health plan who is willing to work with a person with Alzheime...
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Moving your mother with severe (late stage) Alzheimer's will shorten her life.
Consider this--at this point in her life, she can no longer think enough to understand where...
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Good for you for focusing on your health after your parents moved into assisted living.
While many of us try to stay thin(ner) during the holidays, most of us won't be suc...
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Since you come from a large family, it might be easier for you and your sister to share with certain family members about your mom's memory loss before they come to visit.
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That's a great point, alwysgayles. We can learn a lot about our loved ones if we slow down enough and just listen. Thank you for sharing.
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If there’s one positive to this from your description, he does this in private in his own room.
Still, dealing with his fondling of his privates and sexual talk with careg...
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It’s hard to say what normal behavior is when one has Alzheimer’s, but my father used to talk to someone in the mirror, too.
He’d stand in front of the full-length mirror ...
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Penny, you raise an important question with a two-part answer on whether or not you should go see your mother even though she is a toxic person and dying.
On the one hand,...
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Whether or not it is "normal for a person to start dating 2 months after a beloved mates death" depends on the nature of the relationship before the year and a half of canc...
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People with moderate dementia need to feel useful and purposeful like we do; so, you may observe them fidgeting and fixing things. Other times, they will pace and try to go...
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A weekend at home would not be harmful for your father. In fact, it may do the two of you some good depending on his condition.
After a placement, professionals often advi...
