http://www.caring.com/community/groups/suggestion-box/discussions/requests-questions-enhancement-ideas en-us 60 <p>I just wanted to say I wish this website was here when I went through this with my mother and father. My ordeal started in October of 2000when my dad had deteriorated so fast from untreated diabetes he had to go to a home,&nbsp;and from there it was 5 years of a living Hell. I never thought I would get through all the legal rangling, money issues, overbearing siblings as well as ones who didnt give a damn. I am the youngest of 8,&nbsp; and I was the one stuck holding the bag while the rest looked on. My mother was also no pillar of health, but&nbsp;I kept her with me beacuse my father was the combative one. My mother was&nbsp;relieved he was gone, because he was&nbsp; particularly abusive to her, which I&nbsp;had no knowledge of until I promised her he wouldnt be back. My father never forgave&nbsp;us for' turning on him ', as he put it (I was his favorite) and tried with his last breath to make sure my mother and I knew that he hated us both.&nbsp;I felt a duty to protect my mother, and we became very close, but my Lord, it was&nbsp;SO hard. There were so many days that if I didnt have her to&nbsp;give me a reason to get me&nbsp;out of bed, I might never have. She died only 2 weeks after my father did, but she outlived him, which is something she wanted. I miss her so much,&nbsp;I still cry on a weekly basis. But, ironically, if I had to do it again,&nbsp;I wouldnt have changed anything as far as my mom goes. It&nbsp;was really hard to watch her die in my arms, but she was home, with me , right where she wished to be, and I wouldnt have done it any other way. I suppose&nbsp;I havent come to grips with my father; I am still angry at him for so much . Maybe I can forgive him....someday. I always felt alone in my crisis and sorrow...now&nbsp;I know I was.... and am.. not. Thanks for being here. Sincerely, Susan Noble</p> Sat, 27 Sep 2008 20:09:14 -0000 www.caring.com:9:3:1445 Stormchaser http://www.caring.com/community/groups/suggestion-box/discussions/requests-questions-enhancement-ideas <p>Scratching your head about something? Want to get to know your fellow caregivers better and have ideas for how?</p> <p>Share your comments, questions, and suggestions here.</p> <p>We're all listening: the product managers, engineers, editors, and designers.</p> <p>Give our Groups a try and tell us what you think.</p> Thu, 31 Jan 2008 05:55:59 -0000 www.caring.com:9:3:3 Kirby F http://www.caring.com/community/groups/suggestion-box/discussions/requests-questions-enhancement-ideas