My husband (43)and I(43) have ended up being the primary caregiver to my mother 80 and both of his parents 75 &78. We had to make a decision about 3 years ago to move our family of 4 into my mothers home to care for her- as she need 24 hr care - she can't walk very well due to Arthrutis and she now has a trach for breathing. My husbands parents are 3 blocks away-thank goodness, his father has a bad back is now unable to stand for more than 2min at a time, just got wheelchair. His mother is finding it harder to do everything so we are now having to do more and more for them. My 2 daughter have been our only help they are now 20 & 17. Both me & my husband work full time. my 17 year old stays with my mother during the day in the summer til we get home-when scholl start then my 20 year old will pick up the day shift. My mother only has her SS which pays for medical ins - We have absorbed all financial responsiblities fro the home and care for my mother. not much if any left over... Can't afford dependable caregiver to come in. would take my paycheck monthly. My husband just had his 1st full day caregiving with his parents -- not quite sure how he is going to handle it all. or me..
This is my first time on any kind of support site - guess I am just rambbling on. I have two siblings an older in years only sister and an older brother. My sister is (57) an disabled(she calls me to help too) and my brother is (51) who is truck driver and has his hands full with his own family. My husband has a older sister(51) but she lives out of state with her family.
We are now working with both mine & his parents to get all of their Wills and Financial matters in order and to document what their wishes are on everything.
Any input on anything would be appreciated,
We have come to the conclusion that our life will not be our own for a very long time.
