Relationships

My father in law is 97 and had to move to assisted living in June because of health issues. This necessitated a move of 250 miles, away from his home of 60+ years, and near his son.

His wife died in 2005, and he has residual anger issues with my husband...

Lets see.  I think he's an alcoholic. He believes he's cured himself of cateracts using a new age therapy.  He says everything is fine. 

What I believe intuitively is that he is drinking because he is depressed...

I am an only child and my Dad remarried 23 years ago at the age of 69. He and his wife lived in his home with 24 hour care until my Dad started wandering. I could see that they were not receiving good care and I live 45 minutes away...

Something that most of us don't want after a parents death is problems with a will.

My Farther and I were very close and before his death he wanted my son and I to know we are in his will.

My brother was put in charge of his estate and we do not hardly talk...

With regard to giving care, in any capacity, to your parents, do you feel as though your siblings and/or family help enough?  I'm wondering if the majority of us feel some resentment or quite content...

So many of my friends caring for their mom or dad walk around steaming with anger. At their parent's stubborness. Refusal to cooperate. Inflexiblity.

One friend is trying to get her mom's finances straightened out before her dementia gets worse and...

First, I love Caring.com. It's a great site and I am finding value in it, fortunately and unfortunately in my mid 30s. I am about to start a family of my own and with the passing of one parent and the heading into retirement status of another, I...

I would be interested in exchanging problems and thoughts with others that are caring for spouses. There are a lot of discussions for caring for parents. This situation is totally different as far as I am concerned...

I am a 61 yrs. old, single and the only child of 2 parents still living. I am still working so I'm obviously not retired.   My mother is 82 and a stroke victim with severe dementia for the past 2 yrs. She is in a hospital bed, incontinent, and is totally dependent...

I've just seen so many angry or depressed people around.  Friends dealing with getting older and body parts not working.  Parents and friends' parents coping (or not coping) with their situations.  And it so often seems to manifest as anger or depression...

I would like to know if anyone has had experience with how to handle passive aggressive behavior.  My mom had her stroke 13 years ago, she had 24 hour caregivers, she has outlived her marital trust and business is bankrupt.  I brought her home with me this past Sept...

Is anyone in the situation that has been dubbed, "The Sandwich Generation" ? This term refers to those who have the responsibility for care of both their own children and their elderly parents. What have been your biggest challenges?

When my...

I'd love to hear from readers who've tried counseling or mediation to deal with family conflicts over caregiving issues. As the discussions here show, family conflicts are common between elderly parents and adult children, but also between siblings and other family members...

The New York Times is interested in doing a story about caregiving and has asked if they could interview a few of our members whose devotion to their caregiving responsibilities has ultimately put a strain on them, either...

Good Morning Everyone,

I've gotten a lot from reading others postings, and it feels like this is a group of supportive, kind and sincere people, not to mention wise!  Many of you are struggling with real physical caregiving issues, such as having...

My parents age 90 and 88 are declining rapidly. They have always had an unusually close relationship with my brother. They now require a lot of care and we are selling their home. My brother is in charge of finances yet my parent have said that they want...

I am the youngs of 4 and 50 years old. I have been around my mother more then the rest has been.My father died 6 years ago and things have gotten where they see that our mother is  forgetting...

My husband (43)and I(43) have ended up being the primary caregiver to my mother 80 and both of his parents 75 &78.  We had to make a decision about 3 years ago to move our family of 4 into my mothers home to care for her- as she need 24 hr care...

My dad wants a family meeting to discuss his end-of-life stuff, including his estate. This is healthy of him, I know. We live here and there, so my dad is saying he'll pay for everyone to gather in his town. He's not sick, but at 85 with various weaknesses, knows he doesn't have tons of time...