http://www.caring.com/community/groups/caring-central/discussions/what-is-the-biggest-challenge-youre-facing en-us 60 <p>I find it challlenging to get a clear sense of how well my step-dad is doing. Is he really managing well?&nbsp; He seems coherent, but sometimes I get little hints of things, and wonder if I'm reading more into it then I should, or not enough...&nbsp; full of second guessing.&nbsp; And because he's a 2 hour plane ride away its sometimes hard to say.</p> Fri, 21 Mar 2008 16:35:14 -0000 www.caring.com:5:66:273 Bodhi http://www.caring.com/community/groups/caring-central/discussions/what-is-the-biggest-challenge-youre-facing <p>I was just thinking about this discussion today after trying to help my parents arrange a boating trip.&nbsp; I think one of the most challenging things for me is not projecting what I want for them on them but rather respsect what they want for themselves.&nbsp; I get hung up, alot, on my dad missing out on life because he's content to sleep 16 hours a day and spend the other 8 watching TV.&nbsp; But when he's given loads of other opportunities and support&nbsp;and he still chooses sleeping and watching TV it must be what he wants.&nbsp;</p> Thu, 20 Mar 2008 14:59:25 -0000 www.caring.com:5:66:267 Missy http://www.caring.com/community/groups/caring-central/discussions/what-is-the-biggest-challenge-youre-facing <p>&nbsp;For me its trying to start and have meaningful conversations with my dad. &nbsp;He is so quick to shut down and get defensive. &nbsp; And its challenging for me to not to go to extremes. &nbsp;On the one hand to get pushy with him about what he should do, or on the other hand, wanting to just give up trying.</p> Thu, 20 Mar 2008 01:01:20 -0000 www.caring.com:5:66:265 Rebecca http://www.caring.com/community/groups/caring-central/discussions/what-is-the-biggest-challenge-youre-facing <p>What's the biggest challenge you're facing right now with your parents?&nbsp; Is it a relationship issue?&nbsp; Dealing with a health matter?&nbsp; Planning for the future?</p> Fri, 14 Mar 2008 01:00:57 -0000 www.caring.com:5:66:249 Missy http://www.caring.com/community/groups/caring-central/discussions/what-is-the-biggest-challenge-youre-facing