What have you said 'No' to lately?

Great thread!  I'm so so so so SO bad at saying no.  But yesterday I just told my mom "no" to taking a 4 hour round trip to visit with a cousin for dinner.  I felt bad because I wanted to go, and I wanted to help out my parents getting there, but I just can't rearrange everything for a dinner.  The bad part is that I still feel guilty about it.

That's really a thought provoking question and a little humbling.

And you know, it makes me feel better about something that happened with my step-dad.  I was sort of pissed at him at one point, because I would fly in to see mom and he would be unresponsive to some of her needs....   (easy for me to say)

and I thought... geez what's wrong with him - doesnt he see she needs this and that....   "men are so impossible."  I would think...  

but in reality, he's like 76 and probably needed some down time.  a duh!

Go Missy!   Now have to think about what I say "no" to or should!      

Ack! This is my absolute biggest issue: I am incapable of saying no. (Although my children might tell you a different story...) This gets me into all kinds of trouble, needless to say.

And I hear you on the guilt, Missy. Despite years (!) of therapy, I still melt into a puddle of guilt whenever I manage to set boundaries, even if they're totally reasonable.

Ah well, maybe in another 40 years I'll have it figured out...

When you figure it out, Stephanie, please shoot me an email!  It wasn't for my parents, but I found myself sucked into a huge project today that had me muttering under my breath all morning.  I kept thinking, "I could have just said no!  Why did I not say NO!!??"  LOL