So lost after caring for adult sibling - died posted by Rebecca @ 01:44 PM September 10, 2008

Rebecca — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 13:44:39 -0000

Hi Bubbles2, I really understand your struggle. Been there, though different circumstances and time. So heres some practical advice from me. Every day do 5 things towards making your life better - and write them down. Make a list every day. Today 1) I read the paper looking for jobs, 2) Read about Craig's list, and logged on 3) Registered on Monster.com for jobs 4) called a neighbor for support 5) spent 15 minutes reading something inspiring. whatever. things that make you feel better and more like you are moving in the right direction.

Write back bubbles2! and if you like tomorrow I'll suggest 5 more things :>)

So lost after caring for adult sibling - died posted by Missy @ 01:27 AM September 10, 2008

Missy — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 01:27:58 -0000

Hi bubbles,

Like Shirlynn said, my heart really goes out to you. :-( I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time coping with losing loved ones and feelings of loneliness.

Have you looked into going to a support group? It sounds like you may really benefit from connecting with others who can really relate to the experiences you've had. Make no mistake - you've been through a lot. But maybe having others to lean on will help you make it to the next step of grief, which could be closer to life as you knew it or want it. *hugs*

Please let us know how you're doing. I'll be thinking about you.

So lost after caring for adult sibling - died posted by shirlynn @ 01:34 PM September 05, 2008

shirlynn — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 13:34:10 -0000

I read your post and my heart goes out to you. I cared for my father-in-law for a short time and because he was not fight to live I left and told him I would not stand by and watch him kill himself.

I now have my son children 3 in all after the state of colorado took them from the mother who was doing drug while she was pregant and she just kill a set of twins. from doing drugs. I say all thatjust to let you know I can feel your pain. I want to encourage you though to turn your heart to GOD. Ask God to show you a good GOD fearing church that is living the word and you should find some help and support, but now aday church are not like they uses to be. But God is truly the only one who can fill your emptyness and heal you pain. God done it time and time again for me.

Ask God to give you a good job with a true heart towards GOD. You could go to your workforce ofice where you could get tested and see what matches your personality and get a job that way.

My son did that and he been working in the same field for now almost 7years.

God is there and waiting for you to turn your whole heart over to Him. Well I will pray for you and there is a blessing in pressing for the Kingdom of GOD.

So lost after caring for adult sibling - died posted by bubbles2 @ 07:19 AM September 05, 2008

bubbles2 — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 07:19:15 -0000

I know it is normal by articles I have read, but I can't help myself move on. I cared for my younger adult sibling for 16 years with Progressive MS - no support from other siblings or other family. During that time I also cared for both parents in their home with terminal cancer.

It will be five years next month since my sibling died here in my home on hospice. Right after that I had serious health problems of my own and no job to go to because of my own health issues. Finances got very tight and I was afraid between the illness and work situation I was going to lose my home I have owned for 30 years.

Right now I am so lost and without any family contacts that I don't know where to turn. I have tried three counselors in the past five years and their immediate leap is to slap me with perscriptions for anti-depressants. That is no help and my health situation makes that a bad risk at best.

I still can't find a decent job to commit to and committing to anything is tough for me. I feel trapped and most jobs I am applying for re well beneath my education and experience. Because there is a gap in my progressive career steps, most employers don't seem to take care giving as a serious job, although I worked part-time jobs all this time.

I can't seem to figure out who I am anymore. We are never the same person after serious, long-term care giving and death of three immediate family members who came to define the purpose of our life.

My biggest worry is finding jobs, in my area I will need to work several, when I can't seem to get myself put together. The lonelness and sense of being lost is getting worse, not better.

I know I am not the only one in this situation, but I just don't know what to do. I am very worried about no health insurance, my badly dwinding finances, getting to 60 now myself, and trying to find a reason for going on. I hate to see daylight come any more.

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