My father-n-law has cancer

Hi Kathia,

I went through the same thing 6 years ago with my father-in-law.  I'm here for you if you need support.  It was a tough journey, but I've got hindsight and perspective now.  *hugs to you and your family*

Hi Kathia,

I understand how you feel. My father was diagnosed terminally as well, and it was a hard thing to take in. Take comfort in the family, spend what time you can with your FIL, say the things you need to say, and please, reach out here if you need. We're thinking of you.

Hey!!! thanks for your best wishes.  I do want to ask you guys something, how did u guys handle this situation. I mean did u guys  got helped by someone. Did you go threw therapies and etc.... And also where can I find out about places that we can take him, I mean like a hospis

Hospice was a tremendous help.  My father-in-law went downhill really quickly.  One day he was good and within two weeks he was very close to the end.  Once we got hooked up with hospice, they immediately arranged for a hospital bed at home, other equipment for their home like a portable potty, powerful pain medication, etc.   They did all they could to help our family cope.

In many areas, they offer respite care so if your family needs to be out and dad needs care, someone will come to visit with him and help him out.  They also opened their services to extended families if they need bereavement and grief support.

I wholeheartedly recommend giving the hospice in your area a call and see what type of services they can offer you.  They were a huge comfort to our family during this really difficult time.

If you have any additional questions, please let me know.  I'm also here if you want to just vent and need support.  Being completely honest, it was really hard.  However, knowing the end was coming really made our family say the things we wanted to say and express huge amounts of love.  I miss my father-in-law dearly, but I feel a lot of peace about it. 

I lost my dad to lung and bone cancer 16 yrs ago.  It was tough.  The American Cancer Society is wonderful.  They were a great help to us.  They can give you massive information and also tell you what to expect in each stages of his cancer.

In our city we also had a support group.  We were all in the same boat and it was good to talk to others who knew what we were all going though.  Also do you have a church group that can help you out?  I am learning that I have to ask for help.  It is okay - - - do it.  You will need it and you spouse will also need it.

Draw on you friends for comfort and strength. If you belong to a church, draw on them also. 

My dad was ready to go home to heaven and it made it easier on the family to let him go.  I miss him daily.  But I know that some day I will see him again.

We did just rely on family - he was a very well-loved man, and so we all had each other, actually. And it was very quick, and I think that actually helped, knowing he didn't suffer for very long.

I lost my best friend last year to cancer. He went through all the symptoms and it was very hard on everyone. We tried to do whatever we could to help him but nothing seemed to work. He only made it 2 months after he was diagnosed. I miss him so very much every day and hope I never have to go through it again. I started doing research on cancer and it's causes and found some very good information. There is a diet that will cure most cancers even in the late stages. Johanna Budwig diet combines cottage cheese and flax oil to make a health mix and cuts out all processed foods. You only eat fresh vegies and fruit and the cottage cheese and flax oil mix. After just days on the diet cancer stops growing (because it is feeding off the defienciency). In a few weeks the tumers start shrinking. And in a few months the tumers are all but gone and are not active. For the diet to really work one has to be very strict and stay on the diet for 2-5 years. This is a small price to pay for more life. Me and my family have changed our diets and I have been trying to tell everyone I know about the benifits of eating healthy. Cancer is a deficiency disease that strikes when your immune system is low and vonurable. A steady intake of Omega 3 fatty acids and vitamins from fruits and vegies will keep your immune system strong. Also a decrease in saturated fats is a must (no fried foods or processed meats). I hope someone will read this and find it helpful.