Spending down the assets

I have been taking care of my mother who is almost 80 for 2 months now.  She was in swing bed awaiting a nursing home room which had to be private *$400 more because of her alzeimer and infection in her leg.  When her room came up after about 60 days hospital care ,  then swing bed time I one day looking at her decided I got to try and take her home.  After evaluation from Home Health and Physical therapy.   We would be on our way.  I decided she could just as well be paying me $50 a day because that is what her co-pay had been, I think.  Well I soon found out how she definitely was a 24 hour day person and I have 7 daughters who are still home 27, 22, 19, 19, 16, 14, and 9.  The oldest doesn' t help because she has a pretty full time job. But the 19 year olds are students in a small college and commute back and forth and are out for the summer with just part time jobs.  The 22 year old has a 4 day a week job, and the 16 year old has a part-time job.  The 14 year old really have helped and the nine year old is pretty helpful at times.  My brother is finalizing buying the farm for contract for deed then when she gets the money, what happens then if I give up and put her in the nursing home.  Can you get a free list of ways of spending down the assets.  Or where can I buy one, or who should I talk to ?  It takes all of us practically to take care of her and I am now getting $4790 a month which I understand is snip-snap.  thank you