Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by LauraL @ 03:55 AM October 02, 2008

LauraL — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 03:55:47 -0000

Here's also some more information about conservatorships/guardianships on the site: http://www.caring.com/items/tagged/guardianships

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Jamie @ 03:25 PM September 30, 2008

Jamie — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 15:25:24 -0000

Hi everyone,

Ronda, be sure that you and your sister do not wear yourselves out. It was exhausting sometimes just dealing with my grandmother I cant image how crazy it would be to have that twice over. But nothing new is happening with her court case. She is currently living with her son. I talked to her the other day and she knew who I was and also asked me about my brother (she called him by name! ). Does anyone actually know how the courts determine guardianship if it is not a straight forward case? thanks

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by tiffany @ 02:34 PM September 30, 2008

tiffany — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 14:34:39 -0000

hi there...conservatorship/guardianship can be very costly, time consuming and down right grueling...a durable power of attorney and advanced directive for health care should be sufficient, as long as there is a responsible person available who has thier parents best care in mind at all times as it is a very powerful document...also a good thing to know is that the durable power of attorney expires with the person...this can be challenging with any affairs that need to be handled after death, like property, bank accounts etc...I have been caring for my mom with late stage alzheimers for 4 1/2 years and have become a wealth of knowledge on these subjects...my best advice is to have ALL these documents in place BEFORE there is a real dementia problem, because once the person is found incompetent of making a decision for themselves, conservatorship/guardianship becomes inevitable and then the courts are involved with family matters...I'm grateful that this did not happen to my mother, sister and I...i wish you well...

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Ronda @ 01:37 PM September 28, 2008

Ronda — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 13:37:07 -0000

Hey, Jamie - I'm just coming in on this with you, but I am interested in what has been happening in your situation. My situation still has both parents in it, but both are quickly getting to the point it will be challenging for them to live alone. Mom has COPD & CHF with a pace-maker & about twelve different meds, while Dad is two weeks out of open-heart surgery & on ten meds of his own, and because of a totally unacceptable rehab facility - my sister & I are taking "shifts" living with & caring for the two of them. Right now she has nights & I have days. We are hoping this will ease-off soon with physical therapy, etc. - we aren't talking about what we'll do if he doesn't get better.

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Jamie @ 11:35 AM July 10, 2008

Jamie — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 11:35:44 -0000

Hey Laura Ann I guess it would depend on what the situation is. For example if you are the only person that can take care of your mom then you probably wouldnt need it. But i cant really think of a situation where anyone would need it as long as the people taking care of your mom are willing to communicate. There isnt much of an update on my grandmother's situation because the court case was delayed until august. But i went to see her a few weeks ago and she knew who i was but not by name. I think she is doing ok.

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Laura Ann @ 09:55 PM July 09, 2008

Laura Ann — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 21:55:39 -0000

Hi Jaime! Please keep us informed. I would like to know if anyone out there nows if establishing gaurdianship is a good way to go. I currently have a durable power and medical power of attorney for my mom. Is that enough, or should I apply for gaurdianship?

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Kate Rauch @ 09:21 PM May 22, 2008

Kate Rauch — Thu, 22 May 2008 21:21:52 -0000

Hi again Jamie- We have a couple of laywers around here, and I'm going to ask them to take a look at the conservatorship questons. But meanwhile I'll take a lay person stab. Well, actually a "been there, done that" stab, as we went through this years ago with an uncle. In our case, a judge determined conservatorship based on a pile of evidence, including testimony from family members. There wasn't an real controversy, mainly because the cousin granted conservatorship was the only family member living close to my uncle, but the main issue was who would have authority to make medical and financial decisions for my uncle. It seemed clear that all family (and friends) could visit and fuss over my uncle as much as they wanted. I'll see if I can drum up any more info for you.

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Jamie @ 03:05 PM May 19, 2008

Jamie — Mon, 19 May 2008 15:05:30 -0000

They are currently working on determining conservatorship, between her daugher and son. Is it like a custody deal between divorcing parents? I just want to make sure that no matter what I can still see her. And I will be sure to keep y'all informed. Thanks again for all the advice and support! :)

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Kate Rauch @ 03:25 AM May 18, 2008

Kate Rauch — Sun, 18 May 2008 03:25:52 -0000

Yes Jamie... as Laura said keep us posted on your grandmother. It does sound like sticking with her familiar room would be a first choice, but if her daughter is going back to work, this might not be possible, unless there's in-home care. If your grandma ends up at her son's, I'm hoping she can decorate her room to feel just like home.

By the way, the conservatorship is meant to protect your grandmother, on the basis that she can no longer make sound financial or medical decisions. I don't know why it was granted to your grandmother's son versus daughter; these things can be complicated (and messy), but the whole point is to protect your grandmother. I hope things turn out well and you feel good about it.

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by LauraL @ 11:05 PM May 17, 2008

LauraL — Sat, 17 May 2008 23:05:37 -0000

Jamie, do keep us updated - everyone's experiences help everyone else when they're faced with similar situations. I hope everything turns out for the best!

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Jamie @ 12:22 PM May 16, 2008

Jamie — Fri, 16 May 2008 12:22:48 -0000

Thanks for the advice! The familiar stuff idea makes alot of sense. She has her own room at her daughter's and she put up her favorite paintings and did all the decorations herself. She seems most comfortable in that room. We will have the opportunity talk about the situtation soon. Hopefully everyone can stay calm, and focused on her best interests.

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Kate Rauch @ 12:36 AM May 16, 2008

Kate Rauch — Fri, 16 May 2008 00:36:08 -0000

Hi Jamie,

This is a tough-sounding situation, with the potential for family tension. My hunch is that your grandmother would feel most comfortable in a familiar place with familiar routines. It sounds like this might be challenging at her daughter's, as her daughter may have a new job; and certainly at her son's, as this will be a whole new home. I'm wondering if you think everyone can sit down and talk about the situation as calmly as possible, vowing first to put your grandmother's emotional comfort first. I do know that people with Alzheimer's are easily frightened by the unknown and unfamiliar; including changes. Since changes could be in store at either home, the family needs to be thinking about how best to help your grandmother make these transitions. Familiar faces and voices and objects, like pictures or blankets, may help. By the way, how wonderful that you're trying to help your grandmother in this way. I sure hope it's not a hornet's nest for you.

Guardianship/Conservatorship posted by Jamie @ 07:08 PM May 15, 2008

Jamie — Thu, 15 May 2008 19:08:41 -0000

Hi everyone! My family is currently in the middle of determining the best care for my 87 year old grandmother, who was diagnosed with dementia about 3 years ago. She has been living with her daughter for the majority of the past 3 years. Her son has recently gotten a laywer and pettioned the courts in his area for Guardianship/Conservatorship of his mother claiming that his sister will not be able to provide a stable enviroment for their mother. Her daughter's situation is changing and she will most likely be going back to teaching this fall. The past 3 years she has been able to work from home and care for her mother. My concern is the major difference in family types. Her daugher's household is more of a close nit, sit down for dinner every night type. While her son's household is more of a fend for your self type. Which enviroment do y'all think is better for a person with mild to moderate dementia? Also any information about Guardianship/Conservatorship would be really helpful. Thank you very much!

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