Questions about Common Family Conflicts

1. My brother and I are adults, but when it comes to taking care of my mother, we fall right back into the roles we had as children.

   Question - ideas for how to handle sibling rivalries and misunderstandings between sibling caregivers
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2. How do we deal with my father who has heart failure who wants to travel and expects only family to care for him?

   Question - My father is in the hospital with heart failure. His doctors say he fine to fly to?Florida for a few weeks while he waits for his next treatment. Another doctor says he can't take care of himself.? We don't want him to go because he won't allow for an in-home care giver.? He is so stubborn and selfish...
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3. How do I deal with my anger and resentment toward my older...

   Question - My sister leaves all my mother's care to me
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4. Can power of attorney be rescinded and returned to a spouse?

   Question - Powers of attorney can be changed or rescinded, but it is the principal who must make the change.
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5. If visiting with and talking to extended family members unsettles my father, who has Alzheimer's, should we continue while still remembers them or stop?

   Question - My father in law was recently put into a nursing home for Altzheimer's, and for the first month or so seemed excited about the whole thing.? Now that the new is wearing off he is ready to go back "home" and is expecting my husband to take him home when we go to visit. It seems that when he speaks to members of the family it really unsettles him...
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6. Recently, after one month in the hospital with end stage...

   Question - Recently, after one month in the hospital with end stage liver failure, my mother was transferred to a nursing home/rehabilitation facility to receive hospice care. They believed she had weeks to live. She lost the ability to care for herself because of her extremely weakened state...
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7. How do my sister and I come to an agreement about whether my parents should move to an assisted living facility?

   Question - My mother is having an increasing number of mobility issues, and my father is her primary caregiver. My sister wants them to go into an assisted living facility immediately, because she thinks the burden is getting to be too much for my dad. My parents have no interest in moving, and my dad says he likes taking care of my mother...
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8. Are family corporations good or bad?

   Question - My parents set up a family corporation to pass along their assets. Is a family corporation a good way to do this and to avoid taxes?
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9. If I hire an aide for my father should I be responsible for payments?

   Question - If I hire an aide for my father should I be responsible for payments?? My step-mom works 5 hours a day, therefore my time is required for his safety. We have been told he can't be left alone anymore because of the risk of him falling. I love my Dad very much which leaves me where I would do anything for him...
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10. How can I take over caretaking decisions when my brother has power of attorney?

    Question - Try getting to the root of your family member's unwillingness to carry out the duties required in a power of attorney; then, consider other action.
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11. How can I protect my mother from being taken advantage of by my brother?

    Question - The hardest part might be getting your mother's cooperation in cutting off funds to a problematic sibling.
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12. My mother needs assisted living but my sister wants her to continue to live with her so my mother can pay her mortgage. How can I deal with this?

    Question - My mother needs assisted living and has enough income to go into a nice facility. My sister wants my mother (age 84) to continue living with her so that she (my sister) will still get income from my mother to pay my sister's mortgage and my mother will continue to pay for her car...

13. Can my half-brother keep me from seeing my mother, who is in a nursing home?

    Question - Make sure you've tried to get to the bottom of a family member's attempts to block you from seeing your ailing mother. Then, you may need to take matters in your own hands.
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14. My mother won't let me help her, what can I do?

    Question - Why won't mother let me help? I try to do everything I can - take her anywhere and do anything needed. She tells me she is sick and in pain but when? I offer to take her to the dr or ER and she says no.? I've begged and pleaded with her to let me help her and she still says no. All we do is fight...

15. Do you have any suggestions for helping my 13 year old deal with his grandmother's dementia?

    Question - Both my parents live with our family which consists of myself, husband, and 13 year old son. My son is having a very difficult time dealing with my mother's (his grandmother's) dementia. He doesnt want to talk with her or eat meals with her. Do you have some suggestions? He also does not want to talk to anyone other than me...
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16. How do I help remedy a sibling conflict about our dad's care?

    Question - At a family meeting, one member was "beaten up" by 4 others....
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17. How can we talk to my mother in law about her numerous purchases from TV shopping networks?

    Question - My 82 year old mother-in-law seems to be addicted to TV shopping networks & catalogs. She buys items from them several times a week, many of which are poorly made or simply useless. We have discussed this at length with her, and she often denies making the purchases. She does have a small amount of discretionary income, but this is out of hand...

18. How can we get our mother to open up about her finances?

    Question - My Mother is 61 years old and has heart disease and diabetes. She is living on a fixed income, and recently sold her home, and bought a small house with a bond for deed (owner financed) mortgage. She complains of "being broke" on a daily basis. She is resistant to sharing her financial information with my sister and me...

19. How do we convince our parents that they need to move so we can care for them?

    Question - My parents refuse to move and insist that my sister and I move in alternately to take care of them. Both of them have health problems that are getting progressively more serious. My sister and I both live several states away and are married. Our parents think we can leave our husbands for three months at a time to care for them...
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20. Does a sibling have any say in her mother's burial planning if she does not have power of attorney?

    Question - A power of attorney is a dead letter once the principal dies. But there are ways to protect wishes for final arrangements such as burial plans.
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