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This candle is for all of the loving daughters who care for their parents without help from siblings. this is for all the joy and heartache they have. May they all be blessed.
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Hi I have been taking care of my Mom since I was 13 yrs old... My Mom is so precious to me I call her my angel......Yes care-taking is hard and very frustrating at times but as children we should take care of our parents when they need us... they took care of us, fair is fair... I wouldn't have it any other way
I agree. That is why it breaks my heart that others don't visit my mom often. They are missing out and so is she. But she gets a lot of love and care from me and my father.
well thats good... Iwhile my Dad was terminally ill, I couldnt go visit him because of lack of funds to travel there and all but I made my phone calls to him all the time and even when he was dying and having his last breath I got to speak to him.... he had been waiting for me to show up to pass..... I coulfnt stand the thought of him holding on and suffering like he was ... he was non responsive and on his way out and I told my sister to hold her cell phone next to his ear so I could say goodbye... I told my Dad he could go on now that me and my sister and the kids will all be fine and that I couldnt bare to have him suffering no more... and that we all loved him... then I said goodbye... y sister said he raised his eyebrows when he heard my voice and squeezed her hand when I said goodbye I hung up... I felt a feeling come over me like someone taking away a breath of air and I yelled No Please dont take him ... phone rang and my sister said.... Dad just passed away... all he was waiting for was me... I had prayed for months that I would be able to go up there to say my final goodbyes.... and just couldnt afford it... but God ganted me my wish...... by phone... so I got to do it and was very thankful for it... my in laws paid for me to take the bus up to Massachusetts for a week for funeral preporations and the funeral.... so again I was Blessed...
My name is Tracey and I am taking care of my Poppop, while he dies from cancer/heart disease. He is DNR. I am all alone here. It's only been 3 months so far, so any tips or advice would be appreciated so much. His legs are very swollen from the knees down. Anything I can do here to help him with that? He is on a mild diuretic already, so anything else would be helpful. Thanks!!
I wish I would have found this site earlier...but hey!!! its never too late I guess! I have been caring for my mum now for many months and unfortunately she passed away last Monday - I still cannot believe I am saying that!!!!!! I have had many difficult and lonely moments and I hope that I can be here for anyone else who may be going through what I have just gone through! Mum had congenital heart failure and it was very very hard the last 5 days! I believe I am still in "shock" after caring and having myself and my family totallky working around mum and hospital for the last 3 and 1/2 months! I take comfort now in knowing that she is in a better place.!
PoppopsGirl I am sorry I dont have any medical advice for you but I do want to say make his remaining days the best you can for him... and be strong ChrisGib so sorry to hear of your loss... everyone's mourning period is different mine was about a yr then again heck I still sit here some days depressed ... Stay strong and know in your heat they wouldn't want you to tear yourself up over them.... I got into some therapy to get myself through a lot of the mourning process and prayed continuously asking for strength Peace love and light to you both Angel Hugs Cat
Hugs PoppopsGirl
I know this sounds CRAZY, but almost exactly 6 yrs after my dad's death (Oct. 15,2003), I feel like in some ways that I just lost my dad yesterday and in other ways it has been 100 yrs. I miss him every single day. I just wish I could have 1 more day with him. ChrisGib just know that eventually you will realize that life does move on, but you will miss your Mum every single day. Tracey I know this isn't much but just stay strong. My mom is also not in very good health. She's had type 1 diabetes for 42 yrs, 2 heart by-pass surgerys and has been diagnosed with congestive heat failure. I take every day with my mom as being a precious moment. After losing one parent when I was only just 32 yrs old, I take every day with the other parent very serious and if it was a gift.
Hugs PoppopsGirl
It has been a yr now since I started caring for my mother with no help from my brothers. I see how tough it is, but God has a plan for all of us.We have to believe and keep the faith. I almost lost her in a bad car accident.So , I am just grateful to God for allowing me more time with her on this earth. I also have learned more patience and I cherish the time I have her, even more.
I want to Thank You for also thinking of the caregivers whom which are taking care of a parent with cancer and I have to respect his wishes if he chooses not to do his treatment which is 5 days a week for 7 weeks so far.We are wondering why they do not admit them to the hospital where in my eyes they will feel safer.God Bless All
Mom mom was given 6 months at best live, I have never been without my mother, yes I am married and have a family of my own, but I have never gone a day in my life without talking to my mother, I tear up thinking avout losing her, and how my life will be when she is gone, I take care of her 24/7 she lives with me and I hate seeing her decline everyday, today she told me she needed help with her homework, it just breaks my heart, and I'm exhausted my sister does very little to help me, and only lives 5 minutes from me.
not all siblings think we do hun... taking care of them after they took care of us is the right thing to do... bravo to you for doing so... your sibling will feel bad for not being there after she passes... and thats something they have to deal with the rest of their lives... but you however will know that you did the right thing and gave everything you had to take care of her... as for her mind regressing try and talk to her about good memories from the past maybe show her some pictures to trigger the brain to feeling good.... Its hard once their minds start to go but trust me they know in their hearts who you are and all that youve done for them...
Amen, exactly how I feel. I am right where I want to be , and thats with my best friend MY MOM. God will take care of the rest.
Mom and Dad took care of me all my life, even in todays tuff ecomomy dad was ALWAYS A STEP BEHIND. He took care of me and its my pleasure to take care of him. I wouldnt have it any other way. Thats my Daddy. I Love Him. (MAMA too)
Yeah my Daddy always was there for me too... I just wish he wouldve let me take care of him and not my sister because I would taken care of him 24/7 like he needed but he didnt want to move over 1000 miles away from the rest of his family plus he didnt want to be a burden on me because I already have my Mom
Dad made it to 88 after everything he's gone threw. The Alzheimer has progressed soooooo very much, I really don't have my dad, just a body:( He has moments of reality, and the rest he's either hallucinating/delussional or just nasty.(sometimes he's funny, and says I'm glad I can make you laugh). Well I'm still thankful I still have what I have.