doctors NOT willing to help me out with a prescription because they diagnose all women's problems as stress, or worse, that we are shy about sex ("start with cuddling or back rubs"). Men get their viagra, women get ridiculous ideas that don't recognize that women have sexual desire too.
has vascular dementia, which has slowly progressed over the last 10 years. And although it has been many years since he has actually "asked" for sex, my sense is that he still would find it very pleasurable. But that is not my reality! And so, about 8 months ago, I decided I was done!! I love my husband, and am deeply commited to his overall well being. However, intimacy from sexual intercourse (with my husband of 35 years) has become an undesireable experience. And so, an "executive decision" was made...but not without guilt and doubt. Fortunately, I found comfort and support, from the staff at the adult day care center where he goes M-F. I was assured that I must honor myself...that I must not sacrifice my personal needs, wants and desires, in lieu of what I think "I owe my husband, as his wife"! Indeed, caregiver's (and in my opinion, especially wives), have their hands full enough, without this added pressure of on-going sexual responsibities to their spouses.
something terribly pathetic about a doctor who is so ready to offer such a pill. He/she is someone who doesn't have a clue about the real lives of real people, especially those with heavier burdens than lack of libido.
rudest drug in the world. You know " Hey, I'm ready"--and the reply should be--Just hold on a moment and I'll work myself into a frenzy--and now it's a pill for women. Just thimk of it--Hey Sweetie--get it up--I'm ready now. Wonder how that will go over!
An anonymous caregiver
Where's the pill that enlightens
partners to the load some carry and how sex naturally pulls down the priority list given the 24 hour time limit in a day? Sometimes compassion goes even further than regular old passion in a relationship.
I have been suffering now, for over 1 1/2 yrs., with an undiagnosed fungal infection of the intestines. I have seen 13 different specialists. At least one has now been able to stabilize my condition for which I experience horrible incapacitating symptoms! (I am on my way to see yet another who somewhat sounds promising.)
One of the last (witch) docs that I saw said that all I needed was to improve my sex life, "& then everything will be fine"! He then wrote me out the Rx to, "fix my problem"! OMG! I feel like we are still in the middle of the, "Dark-ages"!
I am seriously considering trying to start another type of grassroots, "Women's Suffrage Movement" to address this injustice! I am now just trying to get the word out, let my voice be heard, & pray for: HELP!
having an ill partner you are caring for on your own, who has had sexual problems, who is now nasty and mean spirited to you, who is now moderately incontinant turn to you expecting sex and for you both to enjoy it! maybe I better take a pill--or maybe leave me alone and let me read my book in peace!
disorder!!! Who knew?!? All this time I thought it was because I'm holding down a full-time job, while taking care of the special needs of my husband in mid-stage Alzheimer's, while watching his mind slip farther and farther away, while taking over more and more of the responsibilities that keep the house and yard going, while wondering how much more quality time we have left together, while worrying about how much money will be left to care for ME after this is all over, while seeing HIS libido and performance being affected by the depression and the meds, while grieving the loss of our dreams for the future... And all I need is a pill!!!!!