My sister won't care for Mom even though she lives in the same town. I do everything, but I live 800 miles away!

Perhaps you and your sister could split responsibilities. She could take care of things where her location is an asset and you could take care of things in which geography is not an issue. Then mom wouldn't have to pay for your travel quite as often. You also might talk to a social worker. There are also non-profit organizations for seniors or call your mom's town's dept of mental health. Between the 3 organizations, there should be resources available for pet care, transportation to doctors appts, light housekeeping, etc. to lighten your sister's load.

An Hour 4 Me­

over 2 years ago

another great option is Home Instead. I don't advocate your sisters behavior but I can understand it. After a full day in a nursing home then dealing with a limited spouse the last thing I wanted to do was do more caregiving!

BillF

over 2 years ago

Great post Carol, Have you considered and in-home care company. This might be a more cost effective and local solution that could get to your mom on a regular basis. I would recommend Right at Home, we are a nationwide network of caregivers with background checks and training. If you want to learn more, check out our blog at www.rightathome.net/seniorhomecare. Best, Bill