Last updated:
27-Oct-2008
My sister and her family moved in with my mom, and now they're spending all her retirement money.
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Does your mother realize what's going on?Regardless,take action immediately!Tell those people they have a week to get out of there or you will have the police over.At the same time name yourself as your mother's guardian/representative/power of attorney.You can get the forms,have your mother sign if she can,then it will be legal,then you can start managing your mother's affairs.If she can't take care of herself either move in with her or get her somr home healthcare.But please don't feel guilty about kicking those people out.They certainly don't care about your mother and they will bleed her dry if something isn't done soon.Make the love you have for your mother stronger than the guilt you might feel getting rid of them.I had it happen to me and when the money is gone then they expect you to come up with more no matter what you have to sacrifice.I was left penniless hungry with no help.Don't let this happen to your mom.
The best you can hope for is that your mom won't pass a competency hearing -- and you get named her guardian, then you can send parasite sis and her entourage down the road yourself, and protect your mom in the future. There comes a time when our parents are not longer logical or able to make good decisions, and that's the hardest thing -- when you have to step up and tell them that and take that ability away legally, then do what you know is right for them even if they hate you afterward. Just remind yourself that once in heaven the mind will clear again and they'll truely be able to understand your actions and motives, and will know you acted out of love for them. I also suggest that in the meantime, you also move in with your mom and become a major thorn in the side of your sister and her family -- make their life miserable enough in that house and they may move on anyway; don't let them relax or sleep or get anything without a hassle -- time to go to war!!
My sister and I are experiencing this same scenario with another sibling and I found this article extremely helpful.