Last updated:
03-Nov-2008
My husband and his siblings want me to quit my job and be their mother's caregiver -- and I don't want to!
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The job of a caregiver is much more demanding than rearing your own children and for sure, you will feel as if you're taking care of a larger size child. If you have doubts at this point, take it from me they only grow into larger doubts. This is like stacking a ton of bricks on your head and being forced to run a marathon. I have been there, and I know first hand what it is to feel free after your children are grown and gone-enjoy it. If it is okay for you to take care of your mother-in-law and be paid, can't they pay an independent caregiver the same sallary? No, I guess it will save them a lot of money. But what I am almost certain of, is that it could also cost you your health, sanity or even your life when things gets tougher, and trust me they do. The role of a caregiver is no easy bite to chew- it's tough and rugged terrain
Inasmuch as I am all for family members pitching in and supporting in the time of need, my opinion is in this order. Unless they are all willing to contribute additionally to her social security, 401k and a reasonable health insurance, I strongly suggest she stand her ground. The disabled children should cough up the funds to bring in a qualified caretaker. Bless your Spirit! RevYarb