Lenorasdaughter

6 months ago

I really commend your efforts taking care of your mother. Everyone always says take the high road-however, no one talks about how dusty & dirty one can get. Your mom took care of you while you were just a kid just think of it as giving back. That dude calling off the wedding needs to be dropped from your brain. Don't waste energy thinking about him, girlfriend. Life is not easy, and when a little hiccup he runs for the hills! He could have gotten on board by cleaning, repairing cars, etc. He should have been a team player, and you could have worked together/spent time helping. Enabling mom to reap the rewards of two instead of just one person. You are entiled to a life. But, to get tired/complain is only human. I know because i gave up my life to come stay with my mother. She is 83. I sooo understand. Steal a few moments for yourself daily. Keep your head up & find your bliss. Best Wishes.

1whoseesclearly

about 1 year ago

I've cared for my mother for years, first in her home, the last few years in mine. What you need to do is care for her but not be afraid to put your life equal with her care. Why not move her into your life, instead of moving you back into hers? Go home and take her with you -- put her in a facility you can visit often, and keep in mind that while she does deserve your love and care, you deserve the ability to maintain a life for yourself.

My husband has dementia also and it is bad but i don't feel like it is a burden on. iI just wish i could get out sometime. I had to quit my job to take care of him but that's ok. we live off his disability and it really isn't enough be just barely make it each month. i had to get rid of my car because i could not even afford the insurance. I just wish there was financial aid for caregivers because it really puts you in a hole the way the way it is now with gas prices and food prices, but what can you do nothing because the state won't help