Thanks for a great share and for the answer as well. My mother is in her 70's and is working but I am still always concerned about her. Your personal perspective has helped me to relax. You do have to think of yourself. It's wonderful for a grandmother to be in her grandchildren's lives but you don't have to be a servant either. It seems that a happy medium is in order. Having your own life as well as being a part of your daughter's and grandchildren's lives also. If you don't want to move in, so be it. Stay in your own home and things will work out somehow.