Ever since my dad died, Mom reads negativity into everything and explodes at me. After she vents, she's fine.

I (nearly 40) am beginning to despair with my mum losing her temper with me, I know it's the Anger part of her grieving...I tried to prepare myself for it by looking up the stages. Dad died 8 weeks ago. I looked after her a lot doing what I can...and this is part of the problem: I am physically disabled and in a lot of chronic pain. I am having to deal with my own problems: poor health (what do I have?), isolation, lack of money and the grief of losing my beloved Dad...leading to not feeling good about myself and I am frightened of what's happening to my body. My mum has always been childish and relied on me too heavily. But it's spiteful when I am told I am NOT important and the rude way she talks to me at times like it's my fault for Dad's death! I have put her before me in these past few weeks and I don't know how much I can take. We live together and she isn't normally this way. My adult siblings are addicted to illegal drugs which adds to the stress.

This was helpful advise. I am going through the same thing with my mom. My dad died last December and my Mom explodes at me when she is angry. I'm trying to get her to let her anger out in healthy ways not just at me. I want her to join some type of work out class or group where she can express her self. If anyone has any advise on how to get her to one of these types of classes I am all ears. It is very hard to be the family punching bag.