Family Advisor Archive 2008
October 2008
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My sister's refusal to communicate with me about our father's care has brought back to mind years of mistreatment by her. What can I do? 7 days ago
My sister is 14 years older than I am and has full...
September 2008
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My parents, who have dementia, flat-out refuse to move into assisted living. How do I get them to move without making them hate me? 14 days ago
Advice on how to move parents with dementia into assisted living when they don't want to move.
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I feel guilty about it, but I can barely stand the sight of my mother, who wants to live with me. What do I owe her? 21 days ago
My mother is only 61 years old, but she may as well be 90...
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My father is in failing health and financial ruin, living with a woman who is bipolar, and refuses my help. What can I do? 28 days ago
My father is 69 years old and in failing health...
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How can I stop my brother from taking power of attorney for my mother away from me? about 1 month ago
I'm having problems with my brother and his family...
August 2008
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My fiancé broke off our engagement because he said caring for my mom has taken over my life. about 1 month ago
Caregiving has destroyed my personal life...
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My brother won't share financial information about our dad's assets, and it's tearing the family apart. about 1 month ago
My brother has durable power of attorney for my dad...
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I can't stop feeling that I was an inadequate caregiver to my mom. about 1 month ago
I am a 56-year-old registered nurse. I took time off...
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I took the brunt of my dad's nastiness my whole life. Now I am his caretaker and I resent it. 2 months ago
My dad has been a handful all his life -- prone to...
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I was the beneficiary of my mother's trust deposit until that was changed to her husband's name a couple of months before she died -- and I think it was done illegally. 2 months ago
My mother moved from Orlando (where I live) to Miami...
July 2008
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Should I be responsible for my father's funeral bill when he never paid child support for me? 2 months ago
My parents have been divorced for more than 20 years...
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How much say do I have in determining who is guardian over me and my affairs? 2 months ago
Do I have any rights in determining my care and who...
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I need to rescue my grandmother! 3 months ago
What to do if you want to take care of an elderly family member at home, but her legal guardian has put her in a nursing home.
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I can't get over my resentment at my sister and brother for not being there when my mother was dying of cancer. 3 months ago
How to deal with resentment toward siblings who don't help, leaving all the parental care giving to you.
June 2008
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What can a hired caregiver do about a woman who threatens her grandmother -- who has Alzheimer's -- that the family will send her away if she doesn't take her medicines? 3 months ago
I have been a part-time caregiver to a woman with Alzheimer...
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My mother says she's lonely, and it's heartbreaking for me to hear her crying at night. What can I do to help her? 3 months ago
My father died seven years ago, and for quite some...
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My mother gave power of attorney to her new husband, who is putting her life in danger. How can we get it away from him? 3 months ago
My mother's new husband has power of attorney for her, but I feel he puts her life in danger. How can we get her to reappoint power of attorney?
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My mother, who suffers from dementia and alcoholism, wants my sister and me to be her caregivers, so she keeps sending away the one we've hired. 4 months ago
My sister and I hired a caregiver to come into our...
May 2008
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I constantly feel guilty because no matter how much I do for my parents, I know it's never enough. 4 months ago
My mom has advanced Alzheimer's and my dad is 92 and...
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My mother's caregiver is too controlling and won't take direction from us. 4 months ago
My mother has Alzheimer's and has had a live-in caregiver...
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My mother has asked not to be resuscitated if she has a medical crisis, but my siblings disagree on what constitutes a medical crisis. 4 months ago
Before she showed signs of dementia, my mother decided...
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My dad wants to double-date with me! 5 months ago
What to do when your elderly dad starts dating -- and he wants to double-date with you and your spouse.
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My mother is gambling away every last penny -- and her financial independence. What should I do? 5 months ago
Since my father's death two years ago, my 75-year-old...
April 2008
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My mother's growing needs are putting a strain on my marriage, and I find myself wondering which will fall apart first -- her, my marriage, or me. What can I do? 5 months ago
Since my dad died five years ago, my mother has had...
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I'm not close to my dad's new wife, and that's keeping me from caring for him as much as I'd like to (he has Alzheimer's). How can I step in and help him more? 5 months ago
What to do when your elderly father's new wife comes between you and him.
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My father's racist and inappropriate remarks have gotten so bad, I don't want to take him out in public. 6 months ago
How to understand and deal with an elderly parent's racist or offensive remarks.
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My father seems interested in moving in with me -- and I don't want him to. 6 months ago
At 81, my dad has Parkinson's, three heart stents,...
March 2008
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My parents are begging me for an occasional drink or cigarette -- even though it's against their doctors' orders. 6 months ago
Advice on whether it's okay for elderly parents, one of whom uses portable oxygen, to occasionally smoke or drink.
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How can I deal with my mom's anger at me for urging her to move my dad to an Alzheimer's residence, where he fell in love with another woman? 6 months ago
My mother, who took care of my father through the early...
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Help! My mom's in hospice and my sister and I are arguing about her funeral. 7 months ago
Our mom has said she wants to be cremated "so you don...
