I'm not close to my dad's new wife, and that's keeping me from caring for him as much as I'd like to (he has Alzheimer's). How can I step in and help him more?

You can use a mediator like a counselor or maybe even a family member of hers that is easier to talk to. Bottom line is you have a right to help out but be respectful---after all---your Dad married her, not you. Remember to say your prayers because God is capable of all things...and we are very limited. K

It is nice to know that some children care about there father enought to help his second wife with him. My hubands children where more concerned about his money. They convinced him I was going to put him in a nurseing home and take his money. So he had to divorce me. So now he sits home alone his children have guardenship.He can not understand why I am not there. He did not think a divorce would make a difference in his life. Alzheimer is a awful disease no one should have to go it alone.