My mom's pets are driving me crazy!

first of all, you did a great thing taking in your Mom. now it sound slike you need more support for what you're doing. who are the "we" you mention. can those "we" be more helpful in restructuring life in your house. you can't do this all alone. if the stress so over-stretches your capacity to be kind, it must be as much of a nightmare for your Mom as for you. you still have choices, but apparently hers are now gone and she's stuck in a house with someone who -- excuse me for saying this -- seems angry, resentful and jealous of her own Mom's pets. this suggests to me that there are other issues here, as well. your relationship issues with your Mom are your responsibility to deal with. find guidance and support for issues of anger, resentment and old hurts. do therapy. help yourself find the support you need for that work. (and doing that work will set you free to be your own better self) the direct live-in issues need boundary limits to be set. and it is you who must negotiate them, kindly and clearly, with your Mom. it's not at all unreasonable for you to, for example, require that her bird lives in her room. then she can be with it any time she wants, but it keeps it out of phone range. and be clear and firm about it. most elders i know, and i know many, are happy to have their pet bird in with them. it's great to let off steam here but there in your own house is where you need to make limits that keep everyone sane. i wonder whether you are finding it hard to step up to your Mom and explain that happy daily life needs these considerations. if so, then that is actually the central issue. if you want more from your Mom, you have to figure out how you are able to make a relationship in which you get more. right now, your Mom's life has been centered around her pets because, i'm guessing, that WAS her family in her home. sometimes it helps to think about why people like their pets. let's see -- pets don't criticize, they're pretty accepting, they're always pleased to see us, they enhance the life quotient in our lives. go to a caregiver support group. many are dealing with the same kinds of issues as you and you'll get help, useful suggestions and people around you who understand and can help you laugh about it more.

I agree 100%, I am 67 and fortunately in good health and work full time. I live in my own home - a small farm - and have many pets. I think the world of them and since my human family is far away, they are my family. I would find it impossible to be without them. I think if would undermine the relationship between this person and her mother severely to do anything else but work out a compromise.

wow so great... Living with family members again after we’re grown and have lives of our own can be a big challenge. Every little thing can get on your nerves. But since these pets mean so much to your mom, you’re going to have to find a compromise. http://www.itvarnews.net