I’m jealous because my sick husband keeps e-mailing his ex!

Dear dd, This is not the appropriate place to sell your merchandise. How rude!!!

It is good common sense!

I have forgiven him because my Mom was just not a good partner. I guess she just did not want to be with him....knowing he had other women. It is a tough thing for a kid to go through and seeing all that has scarred me in my relationships. I have and always have been the caregiver at the age of 55. It just seems the right thing to do.

i was a little slow to pick up that your Dad died 8 years ago. and yet you're still carrying all that unhappiness. my dear, get thee to a therapist so you can put it all down now and start to live your own life for you. not selfish to do that -- it's all we all can do. live fully, forgive absolutely (yeah, that's so easy to write, isn't it?) but you won't be free to be fully yourself, with all that potential magnificence, till you unpack the baggage and leave it on the floor. great journeying to you!

Frena.....your words are beautiful. I do understand the connections, but I guess I was angry for having to watch the marriage in turmoil. I miss my Dad so much. My Mom has lived with me for many years and she is my best friend. Thank you for your wisdom.

mature compassion does take a long time for most of us to develop. but standing in the shadow of death itself sometimes brings that about a little faster. it gives a sense of proportion that helps us realize what's really important in human connection and really how little we understand of other people's hearts and connections. if it's okay with mother and brother, that says a lot to me.

My Dad who passed in 2002 had a longtime girlfriend and my Mom stayed in the marriage. Both Mom and Dad did wrong things in the marriage, not wanting to go out together, cheating, etc. But, they did stay together. The day before my Dad died, by brother invited the girlfriend to the house. Yes, the home that we all shared as a family for over 50 years. Since Dad got really sick, the girlfriend more or less dropped him because she did not want him getting sick at her house or in her company. I should have slapped that lady in the mouth when I had the chance, but it was not my place. I was a daughter, not the wife. My Mom and I talk about the visit from the lady (Marge from Coplay) many times and my Mom was glad she let the lady in to see my Dad. My Dad was so messed up on morphine, that I don't even know if he knew the lady was visiting him. So, some people can tolerate this type of thing. I don't think I could ever do what my Mom did on that day.