My sister thinks our mom is faking Alzheimer's and refuses to help!

another you may try is to arrange to be out of town for some really good reason, beg your sister to cover for you with your mother , and go out of town. i guarantee your sister will have got it by the time you get back.

Try getting your sister to read a very helpful book, "Mom's OK, She just Forgets: The Alzheimer's Journey from Denial to Acceptance" by Evelyn McLay and Ellen Young. She may still not get it , but at least you've tried. Your sister may never step up to the plate to help as you would like her to, so you may have to just let go of that wish. I spent too long waiting for my sister to jump in to help with both our parents, but finally, through the help of a good friend, realized I was wasting precious energy and time when it wasn't reaasonable to think that my sister would change her ways. Once I let go of that expectation, it allowed me to let go of some resentment and anger and start working on other alternatives. I know it's never easy- but try to find ways to support yourself, especially by attending a support group regularly. I beleive that's one of the best self-care methods we can use. Best of luck Nancy