My sister has breast cancer, and I don't feel her husband is giving her adequate care.

Having lost a sister, I understand your fear and pain. However, having had breast cancer, I must tell you that your brother-in-law is also in fear and pain. He is facing the possibility of losing his wife. He may be taking it a little too far, but the worst thing he can do is treat his wife like a victim. If you really want to help, do extensive research on the the available treatments and review them with your sister. She will decide what is best for her, as I did. A year later I am cancer free. A positive attitude goes a long way in a situation like this.

My sister-in-law was a ROYAL pain when my husband was sick with MS. She went behind my back and spread rumors and accused me of all kinds of things, because SHE felt I was not doing enough. I stayed away from her as much as possible. To this day I believe that if she would have reached out to me instead of treating me as the enemy, we could have been there for each other and my husband as a united front. Please understand that HE is her husband and yes, you are hurting :(. But, I agree totally with the article. I wish my SIL would have seen this. I hope your sister comes out of this ok.

Wow! this reply is so insightful, lots of wisdom. Helped me to think of things I never thought of. She's right, humble yourself, lay down your pain and show her your true heart, love in a loving way can never be wrong.