My husband doesn't want anyone caring for him but me, and I resent it.

This could be me, without help. I am the sole caregiver to a type A husband who is driving me to distraction. He had a stroke, broke his hip, and just replaced his hip. He will not comply with his rehab and I have given him notice that he has come to the end of the line as far as my enableing him to misbehave. I have made excuses for his general personality and rudeness to others and will no longer do it.

This is a very well written article and very helpful. I care for my husband; bypass, CHF, diabetic, chronic pain, sleep apnea, failing kidneys, arthritis. It can be very challenging to be both wife and caregiver because the lines get very blurred and at times you do not know which role to take. I have taken to Blogging to vent. I started a blog that I hope will help people to vent anonymously. Sometimes we feel bad about the thoughts that come to mind but need to voice them to put things in perspective.

But we said , "In sickness and in health, for better or worse, richer or pooror" I need to escape and yes I have even told my husband he should have died in the car accident. He ignored everyone who tried to help his sleep apnea. He fell asleep driving all the time and usually got lucky. It was matter of time before his luck ran out. I am just grateful that my children were not with him this time and that he hit a tree instead of an innocent bystander, car or the house 10 feet away.

I can relate to you and your situation. I find myself beng pulled in somany directions. Guilt of wanting my own life back. Its awful. I'm so conflicted........

Just the way I feel. Running my own Nursing Home for one was not in my marriage contract.

Bravo, excellent, very well written, exactly what I needed to hear. thank you