Since my husband, who has Alzheimer's, moved into a nursing home, I've become very close to a neighbor gentleman. Should I keep it a secret or let my family and friends know?

My wife and I are both 87, as a result we have virtually no friends left. She has moderate dementia. I have made 4 of 5 other friends that are much younger. Of them one happens to be a 58 year old lady who is married and had 3 sons, one was killed in Iraq. I commute from one house to another, when not at home with my wife, I have a lady come in to take care of her. My relationship with the lady is strictly friendly although we do have lunch or dinner occasionally, My daughter and sons know of this. If they approve or do not, I do not care. It is important that I have some one to carry on an intelligent conversation with. Two of my wife`s doctors have told me that it is essential that I get away. It is almost like a prescription. There is not much left at 87 so why not make the most of it and the hell with what other people think